I'm in my mid thirties and I work with a a 20 year old who is currently on maternity leave after having her second daughter a few days ago.
She has a good relationship with her mum but I was always the one she would come too for advice etc etc, we worked together everyday so became quite close.
We have been in touch since on she went on maternity leave but not met up as I have kids etc and time just passes.
So here is her situation. She's just had her second baby as I said. Her eldest child is 3 and she is no longer with that child's dad. I'll be honest, she's had lots of boyfriends that never last.
So she started a relationship with one 'man'. She was smitten and after a few weeks she's pregnant. She told me straight away. She was keeping it and they were going to be a happy family etc etc.
Then they split up. He has not contacted my friend and has no involvement in the babies life, he doesn't want too. And my friend is happy with this. In the space of 3 mo the he went from amazing to evil....her words.
Then at 6 months pregnant, she met someone else. Fell for him head over heels. He was going to be the babies dad and they were going to be a happy family.....same story.
They split up and got back together literally every week. Sometimes every few days. It was all over ridiculous reasons too. She's very immature. But lovely at the same time.
She then went on maternity leave but we are friends on fb and still chat from time to time.
So last week they had broken up. Then they got back together and he was there at the birth of the baby.
Pics of them both cuddling the baby all over fb. Pictures on his profile saying 'daddy and daughter' 'daddy loves you' etc etc....,and he isn't the child's biological father. He also referred to my friends older daughter as 'his daughter' after 3 months of being together!
The baby is now 4 days old....and they have split up. Again.
I sort of feel I should maybe ask to see the baby and pop round and see her but then again, I don't want to get involved. I just want to give her head a shake and make her realise it's ok to be on your own!!
Her eldest daughter has been introduced to goodness knows how many boyfriends, they just come and go.
She has lots of friends but they all seem to be at the same maturity level as her. They even laugh at the whole on/off with the boyfriend situation.....where I feel it's really sad and doing her daughter or the new baby no good whatsoever!
Like I say, she is close to her mum but her mum isn't the type to say anything to her.
I just feel I want to have a chat to her and let her know she can be by herself. She doesn't need to be in a relationship and when she does meet the next one....take it slowly!
Or shall I just not? Shall I just go and see the baby, take a card and present and see how she is and go from there? I feel like I need to have a talk that her mum should be doing.
Though then again....I know it's non of my business. But I just care about her.