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AIBU to ask if you suspected OH was going to propose and how?

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MonnieMoo · 06/04/2019 13:44

I have NC for this as I know at least 2 ppl irl are on here and I wouldn’t want to be embarrassed.

My OH and I have been together for 9 years and I’ve known I wanted to be married to him for a long time, but i also didn’t want to start dropping hints etc because if he ever asked me, I wanted it to be because he wanted to, not because he felt like he had to or I was expecting it iyswim.

There’ve been a few things he’s said or done recently which makes me suspect a proposal may in the works but I don’t want to get my hopes up in case I’m wrong. We have a night away planned for my birthday in the summer doing something I’ve always wanted to do and I’m so looking forward to it. Now that this is in my mind, i realise the birthday treat is quite a romantic setup and would be a perfect moment for a proposal... but if I’m wrong and it doesn’t happen it could be ruined and I don’t want this lovely birthday treat to be marred by my over imagination and subsequent let down.

Did you know it was going to happen when your OH proposed (assuming you didn’t propose yourself) or has anyone got any tips to shift my mind a gear and just look forward to my birthday again please?

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DontCallMeCharlotte · 06/04/2019 21:23

I was talking to a colleague about the sort of wedding I'd like and I said I think we will get married and then I had an almost physical jolt and said "and he will propose tonight". I have never been more certain about anything in my life. He did indeed propose that night - much to his own surprise he said later, it was completely spontaneous. And just a month after our first date.

Hope it happens soon for you OP

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 06/04/2019 21:51

dontcallmecharlotte I had a strange premonition like that when my ex proposed. I was in the bath getting ready for a night out with him and it suddenly popped into my head that he was going to propose. And I was right! The tacky fit fits it in an Italian restaurant and had told the owner he was planning it so the champagne was on ice. When I went home and told my parents, they were horrified. To be fair, I was only 17, he was 30 (and already married although I didn't know that) and was an abusive prick. But for some reason I knew he was going to do it. Luckily we didn't tie the knot and then I met three love of my life

SunshineCake · 06/04/2019 21:58

I remember dh and I had a night away before we were engaged and I was sure he was going to propose. We had a walk along the pier and I was trying to find a spot where no one else was. He didn't propose.

We were shopping and I went to look in a jewellers. I saw a ring like one I'd seen in another shop and pointed it out. We went in and I tried it in my wedding finger. People were trying to pressure him to buy it. The assistant was much better and just casually gave him a card with the details on. I worked Saturdays and he didn't and two weeks he wasn't where he was supposed to be. Later I was hoovering and found an envelope under some drawers. I figured I shouldn't have seen that.

Not long after he proposed. The two Saturdays were him going to order the ring then pick it up.

My advice would be put it out of your mind and tell yourself if he doesn't propose at the weekend away you could propose to him. I was morning about marriage etc just as he was about to propose. Spoilt it for myself. Idiot. Married nine months later 👰 🤵 💍 💐 ⛪️

Alsohuman · 06/04/2019 21:59

As a complete pragmatist I find it extraordinary that a couple with a baby would bother with a proposal. Mine was “Shall we get married, then?” in bed one morning.

bourbonbiccy · 06/04/2019 22:21

I definitely didn't know my hubby was going to propose. We had been together for 8 years at the time (I think ).

We knew we were going to be together forever but a wedding wasn't a priority, I just knew I wanted to get married before/if we had a baby.

It was complete suprise, he had be off meeting with the Jeweller over a few months designing my engagement ring and choosing stones etc and I had absolutely no idea.

It doesn't matter how long you have been together, wether you live together or have kids IMO it's still lovely for your engagement to be a suprise with some effort and thought. A bit of fun, romance and excitement is always good in my books.

Proseccoagain · 06/04/2019 22:38

Had no idea! He asked me in a grocery shop - in Singapore!

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MonnieMoo · 02/09/2019 18:34

Well I was right in the end, we got engaged on the weekend :)

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Frenchfemme · 02/09/2019 18:47

Congratulations to you both!

mediumbrownmug · 02/09/2019 18:49

Congrats, MonnieMoo!

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MonnieMoo · 02/09/2019 20:12

Thank you, super happy!

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Whatsyournameagain · 02/09/2019 20:19

Congratulations!

I knew DH was going to propose on my birthday. The reason I knew this was because he told me he was going to, when he was very drunk on a night out about a month before my birthday (and then didn’t remember he’d accidentally told me)

Livpool · 02/09/2019 20:49

Congratulations xx

Theluggagerules · 02/09/2019 21:24

Congratulations!

MaMaMaMySharona · 02/09/2019 21:49

Oh what fabulous news! Tell us everything

Sparklyring · 02/09/2019 21:56

How exciting!! Congratulations x

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