To think he is our child and we will manage just fine Thankyou and have fun as well

[Driftingthoughlife]

We are going abroad for 2 weeks on Monday me my DH and five year old DS.
The two times we have been before with DS grandparents have come as well. This time it will be just the three of us.
The amount of people saying we won’t manage well without grandparents and we will find it hard work with DS
DS is what I would call a normal (whatever that means) five year old boy.
We are fully prepaired for the four hour flight with loads to do and also brought loads of games for DS to play with in the pool and on the beach. There is also a kids club if DS wants to go
I know he will drive is mad at times as all five year olds do but aibu to think we will be ok. We are after all his parents and quite like him

Maybe they're just pissed they haven't been invited this time?

I understand this. When my DD was a baby DH used to do bath time with her because with the hours he worked it was the only time he got to spend with her on a week day. Whenever he went away, which was fairly often, I’d get a phone call from my grandma asking me how I was going to cope as I’d have to give the baby her bath while he was gone 🙄.

I was a widowed single parent with TWO dc, and took them on holiday abroad by myself every year! Somehow we all survived. This is just ridiculous. Who is saying you won’t cope, OP?

Of course you will be fine! Plenty of people go on holiday with no grandparent help and more than one child, and shock horror single parents even manage it without a partner!

Wow YANBU. We travel with our 2 kids many times each year. We love to travel. Long haul and short haul. It’s fine. Who are these people saying these things?! Although I’ll never forget the shock and horror of my friends mum when we mentioned we were taking our 8 week old to Spain! She was so horrified, I thought she was going to shop us to SS. People are weird, enjoy your holiday.

Have a lovely holiday!

There will be moments when you will be tearing your hair out, and you never get quite the same chance to truly relax, but make the most of it. Your DS will be 15 before you know it, and holidays with a teen are something else

Let me guess, it's the grandparents saying this as they're fucked off not to be coming.

I take my SN 6 year old boy on holiday on flights by myself without a partner, friends or grandparents.

We have a great time!

My guess is the gp want to come along too....

Is your child Damien from The Omen?
Otherwise, you'll be fine

It's totally ridiculous. Every parent does this on foreign holidays. The % that also bring the gp is small.

Unless you are also the poster saying that your son is sleeping on a sofabed in your room on holiday AND your only definitely of fun is sexytimes every night, then YANBU!!!

Suspect that the grandparents are just cross they're not invited.

You're entitled to holiday on your own. Enjoy. You'll be fine.

WHat an odd thing to say, of course you will be fine.

DH and I have been in loads of holidays with the DCs. I’ve even gone on my own with a 7yo and a 4yo on a holiday which also included a (scheduled) hospital visit.

I went to Paris on my own for 3 days with a 1 year old. Sure you will survive!

Why are people such fusspots?

We have taken ours all over the world from when they were small babies. We never had help - it's really not an issue.

Why wouldn't be able to manage?

It's a child, not a fire breathing dragon.

That’s odd. Do you love independently just the 3 of you?

That's ridiculous. I'm going abroad for the second time, on my own with 3 kids (Single parent). Two of you with one child should be easy! I don't get what they think the problem is? Who usually looks after your child at home?

I'm guessing they mean it'll not be like holidays without kids.

Which, duh if you have kids you probably get.

Hope you have a nice trip.

Unless you rely quite heavily on DS's grandparents for babysitting/childcare etc I don't see why you should struggle. In fact in my experience of holidays - the ones with grandparents in tow were always way more stressful. Going on your own means you can do exactly want you want to do, when you want to do it - without having to worry about other people. Sounds good to me OP - have a happy holiday!

I just don't see how this would come up unless you are hugely reliant on day to day support. You are giving the impression that more than one person has suggested you would struggle to cope. I have never heard of anyone ever suggesting something like this even once so it is inconceivable to me how multiple people would be suggesting it. Are you sure it is not just the grandparents with their vested interest that you might take them?

The people who are saying that are probably the ones who book their children into the holiday club all day every day and don't spend the time with their children. Ignore them, you'll be fine.

Tbh, op, if a large amount of people have said this to you I’d be concerned at how I was coming across to others. It’s not normal to wonder how a couple are going to “cope” with their 5 year old unaided.