Is it really that bad ...

[Dothebadthing]

DH married 4 years, together 10. Happily I would say, still very much adore him, good sex life etc etc.
However I am having an emotional affair (I think that's what you call it) with a guy from work. Generally some texting here and there. It's wrong but I get a real kick out of it, find it a thrill. I wouldn't leave my husband for him. Guess I just find the attention flattering. DH is away a lot and I get lonely. I know when he's away (and at home) he watches porn. I personally don't see it any worse than that. Or is it?

Of course it is....

No you’re not. You’re just trying to get the Mumsnet Mummies all riled up. Bore off.

Go right ahead! If your H watches porn and neglects you, flirt to your heart's content,

However, unless you plan to LTB, don't let your flirtation develop into a full blown affair.

Terrible advice there, to deal with problems by bringing more of them into the marriage. You know it's wrong. YABU.

It’s fine hun.
Welcome to Mumsnet 🤔

Am I missing the point?