to think giving a gift in this circumstance was a nice gesture?

[yarnmath]

Recently experienced a loss. Me and my sister were both given a card and a copy of 'a grief observed' book by CS Lewis. I thought it was a lovely thought, DS thought the person who gave it was insensitive to give a gift after a death and is now ignoring them entirely, which is a shame.

AIBU to be a bit upset with my sister over this? I'm bring sensitive of course but I think it's sad to fall out with someone over a thoughtful act.

@DontDribbleOnTheCarpet so sorry you had to go through the loss of your child.

@MRex a bit of a drama queen to be honest..

@yarnmath - with the extra clarification that it's the woman's DH, your sister's reaction seems even stranger. Was DSis so particularly close to this man? She must be at the exhausting-to-be-around drama queen level.

That book is amazing and it was a thoughtful gift. Not sure how anyone could be offended by it.

Your update doesn't cast your sister in a favourable light. I don't think she's in a position to criticise the actions of the grieving widow as 'insensitive' - even if they were, the widow should be the one to have allowances made for her.

I tend to agree with pps that your sister's creating drama and trying to make things all about her.

I hope that you can ignore this, OP, and grieve in your own way for your friend without having to pander to your sister's attention-seeking ways.

Wow. I originally thought your sister’s treatment of the gift giver was unpleasant, but after your update she just comes across as callous and cruel. I hope someone gives her the metaphorical slap she deserves.

I’m sorry for your loss