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Would you go to the pub on your own?

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fluorescentflossie · 05/04/2019 15:27

Would you go to the pub on your own?

I have exams coming up in a few weeks and have been constantly studying for a while. I am getting really fed up and going stir crazy and just want a glass of wine out of the house somewhere. I have asked around and everyone I know is busy, but I am worried people would judge me for being there by myself.

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araiwa · 05/04/2019 15:31

Go when football is on tv in the pub

Lots of people go on their own for that

Didntwanttochangemyname · 05/04/2019 15:33

Happily! Take a book, chill out, enjoy your wine!

yellowellies · 05/04/2019 15:34

I've just come back from Spain, and noticed as many single women as men in bars, just having a glass of something and reading the paper/a book. There is no reason you shouldn't go and enjoy it!

Funkyslippers · 05/04/2019 15:34

I took my DD to a concert once and went to the local Wetherspoons on my own for an hour. Even though it was a Saturday night, I found a quiet table and read my book with a nice glass of wine. Nobody batted an eyelid. In our local pub many people go in their alone and just want a bit of quiet time and I certainly wouldn't judge them

sarahb083 · 05/04/2019 15:35

Sure, why not! Bring a book or magazine if you're worried about being bored. Sometimes it's nice to be around people, even if you're not talking to them. They won't know you're there alone - maybe you're waiting to meet someone. They probably won't be paying enough attention to you to realise you're on your own.

StarTheGirl · 05/04/2019 15:36

Yep! Have done it and enjoy it. A nice drink and a book is lovely on your own.

I just wouldn’t do it on a Saturday night or anything.

I’ve worked in pubs and most people on weekdays came on their own iirc.

SecretToffeeHammer · 05/04/2019 15:36

Who cares if strangers judge? It’s much easier to get on in life when you stop worrying about the opinions of people you’ll never see again Grin

I quite often will have a glass of wine alone whilst reading a book. It’s wonderful alone time for me.

PBo83 · 05/04/2019 15:37

Absolutely, nearly everyone in my local goes in on their own. Some choose to chat to others and some choose to sit on their own with a book or whatever and everyone respects everyone else's choice.

StarTheGirl · 05/04/2019 15:37

I just wouldn’t do it on a Saturday night or anything

I stand corrected based on the Wetherspoons on a Saturday night story! Maybe it just depends on the pub.

IcedPurple · 05/04/2019 15:38

Is this really still a 'thing'? It's not the 1950s. Of course I would, and do. Obviously I wouldn't go to a known pick up type of place on my own, unless I was 'up for it', but to your average pub, yes, definitely. Most people will be too busy enjoying themselves to notice you.

Jolonglegs · 05/04/2019 15:39

I visit pubs for meals when I'm working away from home, and apart from the occasional man who wants to chat me up I've never had a problem. I usually take a book to read and try not to catch anyone's eye. It's not unusual so don't worry, just go for it.

holly873 · 05/04/2019 15:39

Sip your glass of wine with pride. Screw what other random strangers may or may not think about you.

Raspberry88 · 05/04/2019 15:39

I used to go all the time. I would still if I was allowed out of the house after 6pm (demanding toddler!) Some years ago I moved to a new city and didn't know anyone and I used to go out with a book for a glass of wine most evenings. I've never had an issue at all and was rarely the only person alone in any of the pubs I went to. Honestly no one will judge.

Purpleknickers · 05/04/2019 15:39

Absolutely yes, don't give it another thought it is perfectly normal

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buzzbobbly · 05/04/2019 15:40

Yeah definitely in your circs.

Everytime I come home from a class I pass by a v nice pub and think "ooh, i should stop in", then realise I am in filthy sports kit and sweaty...

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 05/04/2019 15:43

Oh yes, but we are pub creatures, even tho' I dont drink alcohol. I love a pub atmosphere.

TotHappy · 05/04/2019 15:45

Yeah, but if you're not careful people will try to talk to you, and include you, and draw you out. Annoying

BloodyDisgrace · 05/04/2019 15:46

Heck, that's what I've got a 1st degree in! Never worried if anyone will think I'm lonely or weird. I know I'm not lonely, I know I am weird - and that's for the rest of the world to be ok with.
Have a good time there!

Toooldtocareanymore · 05/04/2019 15:47

seriously would you go to a pub and judge anyone for sitting there on their own having a drink? course you wouldn't. Get out have a break and don't even think about it for one more minute.

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fluorescentflossie · 05/04/2019 15:51

Thank you everyone! I think I am just overthinking it. I am going to have a relaxing bath and then go get my wine Grin Wine

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WorraLiberty · 05/04/2019 15:52

I would but I'd find it really boring unless I knew people in there.

Having said that, I'd happily sit in the outside seating area/beer garden on my own, as long as it faced a road as I love a bit of people watching.

Lndnmummy · 05/04/2019 15:55

I’m in the pub now with a magazine, sleeping baby in pram and lovely glass of wine. On my own

CostanzaG · 05/04/2019 15:58

Yes. Glass of wine and a book.....bliss!!

firesong · 05/04/2019 18:16

Yep. And talk to other people there too, sometimes. It's fine.