To have intervened and embarrassed neighbours’ DD?

[ThomasRichard]

I just got up, looked out of my window and just saw my neighbour’s teenage DD get smacked in the face by a boy. They were standing in a big group, laughing and messing around but it was quite a whack. I watched and thought of texting NDN but a few seconds later he grabbed her by the hair and yanked her around. I ran out, asked him WTH he was doing and told him not to touch anyone like that ever again. He denied it and mouthed off, NDN DD did the teenager dying of embarrassment thing, but he moved on.

WIBU? If it had been my DD I’d have been out there in a shot.

Next saw her.

I had to gointo school when one of mine was early highschool because some boy was throwing her about of course it was for a laugh but really Dd didn't find it funny but wasn't able to articulate why she didn't like it

I think you did the right thing. I would’ve done the same.

You did the right thing, if I'd have watched that happen I would have done the exact same and to be quite honest I don't think I'd have been able to stop myself getting hold of the horrid little prick. If I were you I'd try to get hold of his parents too because I would be absolutely disgusted and mortified in my son if he acted that way towards a woman.

I'd like to think if it were my daughter that someone would step in, thankyou op x

Well done, OP, you did exactly the right thing. Better to be embarrassed than hurt, imo, and hopefully she'll take a leaf out of your book and not tolerate this sort of shite.

I'd have given the boy a piece of my mind too, in the hope that he might think twice about assaulting girls and women in future.

Yanbu. She might be in embarrassed now but won’t be for long and thank you for it. Also good idea to let parents know

A little bit of embarrassment is nothing compared to a lifetime of feeling it's better to keep quiet and let ppl treat you this way. You absolutely did the right thing.

Hope she is ok

You did the right thing OP. When I was about 10 a slightly older boy grabbed me by my neck and punched me in the head "play fighting" I wish an adult had seen and intervened. I just laughed it off

You have absolutely done the right thing.

Well done
You deserve a reward

You need to tell her parents. If she lets boys get away with assaulting her she’s just as likely not say anything if she’s raped. Her parents need to be taking better care of her until she gets more mature.

I join the chorus of voices that say you did the right thing.

She might be "dying of embarrassment" now but as she gets older and grows up, she will be really grateful for you sticking up for her and remember it. Well done OP

Hell yes you did the right thing.

You did the right thing.

You absolutely did the right thing. His behaviour could (and should) and him with a criminal record for assault.

You definitely did the right thing, well done for taking action. Too many people second guess themselves in these situations and their hesitation means that they miss the opportunity to intervene and send the message that it's unacceptable. Also, as a mother of a pre-teen DD, thank you. I worry so much about things like this happening, it's good to know there are people like you who will get involved when necessary.

I remember when I was 13, myself and a friend were walking home from secondary school and ended up surrounded by a group of older teens. They started off "jokingly" taking our bags and throwing them around and it escalated to them pushing and shoving us around and a much older boy slapping me across the face, grabbing my breasts and rubbing his groin against me. Several adults walked past and did nothing to help. Eventually, a car pulled up next to us and a young woman jumped out and verbally tore strips off them while bundling the 2 of us into her car, which had her baby in the back. The poor woman was so upset she was shaking and in tears. She wanted to take us to the police station but we begged her not to so she drove us both to my house and waited until we were inside and waving from the window before she pulled away. She left a big impression on me and I'm sure you'll have done the same for your teenage NDN, even if she doesn't realise it yet. and for you, you lovely woman.

You did the right thing OP.

Don't doubt it.

I'd also tell her parents what happened.

Absolutely the right thing to do OP, well done

Text sent. I expect they’ll be over later after work. Poor kid.
Well done OP - no doubting you did the right thing and, even if she felt temporarily embarrassed by your actions, I bet she was grateful.

Often people - especially young people/young women in particular want so badly to belong they aren't able to stand up and defend themselves.

Hopefully you've sown those seeds for her, which may well be very useful to her as she goes through life.

Very good that you texted the parents. If the DD thinks that sort of behaviour is ok from a 'friend', her parents need to have a chat with her about self-esteem too.

yes another here to say well done, you did the right thing. I also do think if they were in school uniform you should tell the school. (Rather than the parents or theirDD, as you witnessed the behaviour).

You did the right thing and it was very brave of you. I'd imagine her Dparents will be upset but glad you intervened.

It really doesn't matter if they were "play fighting", I wouldn't accept that as an excuse for a boy whacking a girl in the face and then yanking her around by the hair .

Bet he doesn't do that to any of the other boys there. I would have been tempted to go out and give him a good whack around the head, see how it made him feel. Wee prick!