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To leave without saying a proper goodbye

6 replies

PookieDo · 04/04/2019 21:47

I have moved on from a job to another department (internally) but kindly my old colleagues organised a little goodbye which was really lovely and clearly had put some thought into it. It felt genuine.

My manager made some effort as well on this occasion buying me a small standard (supermarket, still in the carrier bag) gift. Over the past year I have found her awful to work for and I try to avoid spending any time with her unless I really have to. I have always tried to be polite and professional around her and I have gone over and above supporting her even when I didn’t really want to, but some of the things she has done are very unprofessional and selfish and caused me stress. The previous day she had done something similar so I was still feeling peeved about it.

I said thank you for the gift face to face and smiled but I left later on without saying anything else. I did not want to say a gushing goodbye because I would not have meant any of it. ‘Thanks so much for everything’ would make her feel better but feel fake. I’m glad to leave!

She has already told my new manager how upset she is about my behaviour - having treated me like shit for ages but bought me a £7 present. New manager just told her I wasn’t feeling well

I could make contact with her now to just put it to bed or WIBU to just forget about it. Was I rude? I don’t have to have any contact with her anymore

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CheekyChappy710 · 04/04/2019 21:54

Forget it. Ignore her forever and enjoy your new job.

Marmalady75 · 04/04/2019 22:30

She complained to your new boss because you didn’t give her a gushy goodbye? Ignore and try to avoid!

recrudescence · 04/04/2019 22:33

Forget her and enjoy your new role.

PookieDo · 04/04/2019 22:43

@Marmalady75

Yep! This is what she does!

I did see her that day before the gift in a carrier bag and all she did was talk about herself. I knew any goodbye would be the same

I was thinking I might be seen as rude accepting the gift but glad it’s not. Thanks

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Skittlesandbeer · 04/04/2019 22:48

If I didn’t believe that burning workplace bridges was a bad idea, I think I’d have ‘forgotten’ the carrier bag and her precious gift at the office!

Don’t give her any more of your headspace, and pass on her gift quick smart. If it’s chocs, they’ll stick in your throat!

Sparklesocks · 04/04/2019 22:48

A ‘im off now, see you around!’ might have satisfied her, but you said thank you for the gift so I don’t think you needed to do much more. Also as it’s internal it’s not like you’ll never see her again, so you could argue you didn’t need a formal goodbye.

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