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To wish my mum would accept the real history of this non event???

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LellowYedbetter · 04/04/2019 13:42

God almighty.

When I was about 13 I played a daft joke on my mum. I asked her to go into the record shop and ask for a fictional album. I named it something really gross like “Suck the infected toenail” by “necrotic foreskin”

She went in and asked for it. Back then there was no computer records so the poor staff had all their books out searching for this album and commenting on how gross the title was. All the while my mum is arguining them down that they should stock it as I’d told her it was a new release.

A daft, non event really (although hilarious at the time)

Anyway, 25 years later she refers back to it constantly “hey, remember when you ... “

Thing is she has all the details wrong and has plain made some of it up! She now insists that my two kids were present and they were doubled over outside the record shop (I was 13, they weren’t born!) my sister was present and was really embarrassed (she wasn’t born!) and loads of other stuff

If I challenge her on it she gets arsy and defensive and insists that her version is right. Everyone knows it isn’t! My kids tell her she’s wrong all the time and she gets mad and makes up more parts to the story to back herself up. She tells all the family her version which causes everyone to believe that I was in my late 20s when I did it!

She does this with loads of stuff and I find it so annoying. No dementia etc, she just likes adding parts to stories to make them sound better but it makes me look a twat at the same time

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alittlesnow · 04/04/2019 15:52

I know several people like this.

My mum was a bit like this, and would swear Monday was Tuesday, and there is 13 months in the calendar year, no matter HOW many times you proved otherwise... I remember she swore that I never had a rubik's cube and am fibbing about this, and yet I have a photo of me aged 13 with one in my hand!

Also know several people who have come out with outlandish stories of things that happened when they were younger, and I have seen proof since, that it was made up/embellished etc. These same people STILL make stuff up that is later proven to be bullshit (or exaggerated...)

I think some people do it to make themselves, and their lives, sound a bit more exciting. (Or to inject some excitement into their lives!)

Iwouldratherbemuckingout · 04/04/2019 15:53

Interestingly, my friend does this but with a slight twist - she adds all sorts of detail (can be good or bad!), but when you challenge her, she genuinely doesn't realise she's made something up - but knows she does it so is very happy to accept the truth. Really weird!

EmeraldShamrock · 04/04/2019 15:59

You're not alone OP. DM will argue she is right when she is so wrong, mostly I let it go because I cant be bothered.
Great teenager prank btw. Grin

LellowYedbetter · 04/04/2019 16:08

Can I just say some people are taking this way too personally, it was kind of meant lighthearted (as most people have realised!) but I realise I may not have written it as such.

Anyway my mum retells the story (or a version of it) because she still finds it funny. She certainly didn’t find it funny at the time 😁 but she’s grown to love the story and definately sees the funny side now. She uses it as an example of what a twat I was as a teenager.

Another one was that she was on the phone once having an important conversation. I put an ice cream near her cheek and said “mum” - she turned right into it and then had to carry on her important phonecall absolutely furious and with ice cream all over her face. Happy times.

I think she enjoys retelling these stories as my childhood wasn’t a happy time in general. She was depressed, my dad had divorced her and we were dirt poor. She feels guilty about how shit it was and these are the times she remembers me laughing ... so she re-tells and re-tells until eventually, it appears that we laughed more than cried I suppose.

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Lovemusic33 · 04/04/2019 16:08

My mother does the same. A while ago she was telling someone how she bathed us every night, this is a lie, we were always grubby and we were only bathed on a Sunday 🤣

Blahdeblahbahhhhh · 04/04/2019 16:27

My parents\ memory of my childhood is entirely different to mine....

HamCheeseHamnCheese · 04/04/2019 16:34

I am absolutely howling at some of these stories!

Self Promotional Bias theory sounds spot on. I think this is the case in many discrepancies between people's versions of events.

ForgivenessIsDivine · 04/04/2019 16:34

We have a lot of stories in our family and lots of secrets. Some of these are dismissed as 'you can't believe everything that X says'. There is also a lot of alcoholism and depression in my family so it is difficult to pick out the truth and the hurt from it all. There is one story my parents tell from different sides. I don't want to know the truth because both versions are unpalatable. Some others are terribly sad and it is truly tragic that the truth is not shared.

Persimmonn · 04/04/2019 17:08

The funniest thing is the people in the shop actually searched for it too 😂😂

Friedspamfritters · 04/04/2019 17:31

There's a massive difference between a 13 year old making up a stupid story to embarrass their mum in a record store (and presumably admitting the truth after the event) and a grown adult 20 odd years later telling family members mainly made up stories.

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