To be a little unsettled by friends behaviour

[Soundsgoodtome]

Morning ! This is my first post. I am a bit stuck on a simple issue that I can’t figure out so would appreciate your opinions please . My male friend and I have been friends for years . He has a pgirlfriemd if a few months . He seems happy .however he has started a new habit over the last few months which I wonder is a bit strange . He obviously doesn’t contact me when he is with her but when she leaves his home , even if it is 7 o clock in the morning or 12 at night, he starts sending me the most mundane stuff eg funny’s, memes, jokes etc. We work together now and again and he will message me every single day after work . Again , nothing sinister or untoward but it will be him, probably out of habit who starts the conversations between us. I don’t initiate and I don’t always respond as I’m busy in the evenings. Aibu to think this is bizarre . Or am I overthinking this ? Thanks

What does your husband say?

Ok, you are shy.

So send this message 'I notice I'm getting a lot of messages from you in the early morning or late at night and, as I don't want to be disturbed at those times, in future can you keep it between say 10am to 6pm unless really important. Thanks '

Send it now. Job done.

Thanks . I am not married

Just don't reply to him when he messages so late, if he mentions it say "yeah, I'm asleep when you message at those times".

I started to ignore some messages and one morning recently , I bumped into him at work and he was quite cold with me . I know that it was because I didn’t reply to a midnight message as it was too late and I knew I’d meet him at work to answer his question. I feel i can’t win as I thought what I was doing was a good thing. He practically ignored me for the morning! I know it sounds terribly silly but that is why I posted because it was getting too unusual for me . He is intense as a person anyway I guess.