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To think he should have been told off???

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LellowYedbetter · 02/04/2019 15:08

Had to endure a training day today. Big room full of people, nightmare. Anyway an hour in and trainer woman tells us it’s time for a comfort break. Bloke in the room flings his leg out and kicks his shoe flying across the room which knocked a cup of water over onto my (works) laptop. I now have to fuck about driving to the other end of the city to get the laptop either repaired or replaced and nothing is said to him other than “that was a bit stupid”

All because she said “comfort break” and it causes him to lose his shit. I feel like I get taken for an absolute fucking mug, I really do

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Ceci03 · 02/04/2019 15:43

some people are fuckwits - he's one of them sadly.

redwoodmazza · 02/04/2019 15:44

I used to be a trainer. His behaviour is no way acceptable. You should NOT be inconvenienced because of his stupidity.

I would also suggest he arranges the repair - and you have another laptop provided to use until it is.

NoSquirrels · 02/04/2019 15:45

Sounds altogether bizarre- what was the training for? How to be a grown-up?

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/04/2019 15:46

I facilitate a lot and it wouldn't occur to me to 'tell off' an adult. Manage the situation, yes. But tell someone off in training? No.

BlackCatSleeping · 02/04/2019 15:46

Perhaps having an open glass of water next to a laptop isn't such a good idea.

Seriously?!

First rule in our house is don't throw things, because if you throw things, things get broken. Guy is a twat. I'd have a word with someone in the company about it.

safeea · 02/04/2019 15:49

Will you have to go across town to get the laptop fixed in your working hours? Because I would refuse to use my free time and resources to do so.

The man beggars belief. It's what five year olds do.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 02/04/2019 15:52

I'm not sure that a telling off would achieve anything, though, as it was a freak accident

Valenta Nothing was accidental though. He deliberatley threw his shoe. Anything that happened after that was a direct result of his stupidity. NOT AN ACCIDENT!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 02/04/2019 15:52

Perhaps having an open glass of water next to a lap top isn't a good idea.

No perhaps someone acting like an idiot isn't a good idea.

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 02/04/2019 15:54

How would you manage that one, MrsTerry? I think asking him to leave wouldn’t be too inappropriate, tbh. Bloody thug.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/04/2019 15:54

Wow. He should be disciplined. Strong words at the very least. Is this an in company training session? It sound like it is. Your manager is no better. Can you complain to this manchilds manager?

Nowthatsamiriacle · 02/04/2019 16:00

He does seem to be extremely rude, but there really isn't much that a trainer can do tbh. He's definitely an idiot, unfortunately there isn't much you can do about that.

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/04/2019 16:00

How would you manage that one, MrsTerry?

Off-hand, I'd talk to the OP about how we could make sure the laptop gets fixed while her learning wasn't affected. I'd refer back to our shared guidelines (which is done at the beginning of the day) to manage the laughing about it. There's normally something on the guidelines about respect or something. And I'd talk privately to the idiot. About safety.

RomanyQueen1 · 02/04/2019 16:00

What a dick head, doing something like that on purpose.
it's hardly an accident at his age, he knows the consequences surely.
Can you put in an official complaint?

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 02/04/2019 16:05

Yes, that sounds fair enough MrsT. I think his actual company (is he a colleague, op?) should be informed too, though.
Anywhere I’ve worked, that behaviour would have been classed as bringing the company into disrepute.

ilovesooty · 02/04/2019 16:05

Is it going to cause you extra work to get it fixed - ie are you missing tasks you'll have to make up later?

Was the trainer internal or external to the company? Does your code of conduct mention negative behaviour during training?

Do you share a line manager?

Laiste · 02/04/2019 16:10

He caused the damage. He's the one who takes the laptop to be fixed.

I would have been adamant about this with the manager/trainer/and uncle tom cobley an' all!

LeesPostersAreInFrames · 02/04/2019 16:13

Perhaps having an open glass of water next to a laptop isn't such a good idea.

I am sitting next to a laptop with a pint of water AND a coffee right now. I do what I do every time I do this, and did a quick mental risk assessment - Iput the glass where it's most unlikely to be knocked/if it does it's not into the laptop, make sure nobody else's elbows (or mine) are going to catch it. All perfectly reasonable and we all risk assess like that mentally every activity every single day, otherwise we would lie in bed terrified of getting out of bed or crossing the road.

What's not reasonable is to expect somebody to include "maybe somebody will kick off a shoe in temper" in a workplace environment full of adults.

MargoLovebutter · 02/04/2019 16:18

His behaviour was out of order. I would have a word with the trainer and say that you are going to be massively inconvenienced now to get your laptop repaired and ask for the trainers support in speaking to the shoe thrower about recompensing you for the time and expense you will have to deal with as a result of his behaviour.

Is the laptop definitely fucked? As a prolific spiller of tea, coffee, water and the occasional protein shake I usually just open the lap top fully, turn it over, wait for all the water to drain out and it is fine.

RunAlexRun · 02/04/2019 16:20

Men always get away with shit in the workplace and it's always laughed off! I've just left my job as men were getting away with murder whilst women weren't even allowed to go to the loo!

Eliza9919 · 02/04/2019 16:33

I'd report him to HR for being such a fucking a child. Who reacts like that over a phrase ffs???

SofiaAmes · 03/04/2019 09:10

"First rule of thumb in my household" is to never put an open glass of liquid anywhere near any electronic equipment and that's because often people do silly things (and we have a lot of clumsy people in our family). I am amazed at how many people on this thread leave open liquids near their laptops. I'm not excusing the colleague's dumb behavior, but I just don't understand why anyone would risk an expensive and/or necessary piece of equipment, when it's just as easy to use a water bottle or a mug with a lid, or just put it on a different surface.

hsegfiugseskufh · 03/04/2019 09:14

Perhaps having an open glass of water next to a laptop isn't such a good idea

why? op was on a training day not in a fucking soft play centre.

generally you don't expect adults to throw shoes, or in fact anything.

I have an open cup of tea next to my computer right now, I assume there will be no footwear being launched near me, so its fine.

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 03/04/2019 10:35

The water caused zero problems until the aerial assaults started. Who’d have foreseen that one, in a room full of supposed adults?

IceRebel · 03/04/2019 10:42

I'm not excusing the colleague's dumb behavior

That's exactly what you're doing. You've shifted the blame to the OP for having a drink next to her laptop, which is perfectly normal for an adult. Not once have you said his actions were to blame or he shouldn't have done it, just that OP shouldn't have had a drink near her laptop.

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