My children who are 25, 24 and 22 and can not be in each other’s company for more than 20 minutes without WW3 breaking out. I could handle it when they were teenagers it seemed “normal” but now I am at my wits end. They had loving childhoods and all got on so well until 11 years ago when our lives were turned upside down. Their dad had an accident at work and was paralysed. We had an awful 7 years while he waisted away, was angry and abusive to all of us. He would cry and beg for forgiveness and go to sleep parting not to wake up every night. He lost all sense of what being a “dad” was and would even ask his young teenage children to help him end his life. Our lives were horrendous, The guess were daily. My sons grew aggressive and violent. My husband died 4 years ago and I thought things might get better and two of them have. But my middle one is still so aggressive towards the other two. He ruined Christmas, he ruined mother’s day, he verbally abuses me, and is then very apologetic. I have paid for counselling for him several times but he just stops going and says he doesn’t need it. I think he blames me for the awful situation we found ourselves in for so many years. I really don’t know what to do.