Secret wedding ideas

[Secretwedding]

Name changed in case outting. Not an AIBU but posting for traffic, i hope no one minds .

Secret weddings, who's done them and what did you do ?

Me and OH have been talking. Don't want massive fuss and dont want to spend masses of ££££. Would like to book a registry office somewhere and not tell our nearest and dearest till on the day or very few days before but no idea how to go about it.

Any ideas ? Thinking possibly organising for next year.

This may be a stupid question, but are you engaged? As in with rings, etc?
Have you had an engagement party?

Yes that is a stupid question.

Although, it is often said that there are no stupid questions, just answers.

As if nobody ever got married without exchanging engagement rings or telling their family they decided to get married. Oh, wait...

"That would only work at a log cabin if the cabin was licensed for weddings." Not if they marry in Scotland. In Scotland it's the celebrant that is licensed not the place.

Is that a possibility op?

Colleague did this. No one knew. People only know if you tell them!

She says they booked a registry office. Told their immediate families about a month beforehand, to allow them to sort accommodation/outfits if they wanted. Pub lunch afterwards.

Registry office then a big party somewhere

Agree that people only know if you tell them. And considering you are planning on telling them, it’s not a secret is it? It’s secret wedding planning, not a secret wedding.

If you really want a secret wedding no need for planning just go and have one.

Lots of quirky places are licensed for weddings. You can use that as a ruse for a birthday celebration - we are going to x for the day - but have the wedding planned. All sorts of places like safari parks, botanical gardens. Places like preserved railways are often very reasonable - in wedding costs terms - and the money does some good by helping the charity.

That being said a weekend away works too with local register office booked & could be overall cheap. Saying weddings to hotels tends to add 00's to the cost.

Surprise wedding is probably more accurate I guess lol

No engagement its always been planned just wanted to have dc first. Now we have, we just want to get married. :)
Lots of good ideas for me to think about:) , thank you

There's a registry office in the NE that has luxury self-catering apartments. I think its a great idea, we had a small wedding and there was still pressure and stress. Good luck.

Eloped to the Isles of Scilly, just the two of us - married in the registry office overlooking the beach - wedding pics on the beach - dinner in lovely restaurant that night. Would'nt change a thing.

Where abouts @disfordarkchocolate ?

@chimp that sounds so romantic

Hexham. It looks lovely and you are straight into a lovely park for pictures if it's dry. Some good restaurants nearby too.

www.northumberland.gov.uk/Registration/My-Northumberland-Wedding/Hexham-House.aspx#hexhamhouse

@Secretwedding
www.bouchonbistrot.co.uk is one of the good restaurants nearby.

Best wedding I ever saw was on Peak Practice.

They got married in the morning and arranged a drinks party for the evening and just announced their marriage.

Perfect.

I would arrange a weekend away with everyone meeting in the town outside the registry office but you don’t tell them that.
Dress smart for dinner.
Get married.
Dinner

Weekend of partying.

No engagement

So, you could get officially engaged, then gather your closest to celebrate your engagement and instead have the actual wedding.

I know if a couple who organised a big party because they had “an announcement to make”.

Which was that they had married in the morning. No one from the family knew.

I always said I wished we had done something like that... pleasing his mum and our siblings was the most frustrating part of planning our wedding.

I got married in secret, just me, DH and his DC from his first marriage - we picked an unusual location that was only just big enough for us and the Registrar and their assistant. DC grown up so were witnesses. We just announced it to family a while afterwards at the next occasion we were all together for a meal.

If I'd gone along to a 'party' dressed casually and found myself at DC's wedding I'd always regret not making more of a 'formal effort' every time I looked at the photos.

In Australia you can get married at home with a wedding celebrant who is licensed to perform marriage.

We booked a holiday, then the register office 5 weeks before the date. 4 weeks before we told my mum and sisters, and dhs parents the date and asked them to come. After the register office we left them all at our house and we went to a hotel for the night 👍🏻

Enough time for them to be there but not enough time for them to stick their oars in.

I went to an engagement party. Mid way through the party the bride to be changed into a wedding dress and the couple married