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I think I was expecting too much or not?

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yawningmonster · 12/07/2007 04:37

It is winter here and to break up the cold horrible weather we decided (5 of us) to have a mid winter xmas party. We had it at my place and there were 5 mums and 6 kids (3x 2.5yrs, 2x3yrs and 1x7yrs) the weather was crap so it was inside. We had a picnic potluck with crackers etc. We also did a craft making a snowman with cottonballs etc and a pin the nose on the santa game as well as a xmas video going. I had hired out some toys from the local toy library and set up a hut in the main room as well. Anyway the 7yr old, one 3yr old and one 2.5yr old were horrific!! They kept running around the house letting the dog back inside and then being terribly mean to her, going into my room and getting things out that they shouldn't etc, anyway I was starting to get stressed out telling them to stay in the main room and getting a little peeved that the parents who are good friends seemed happy to leave me to deal with it while they chatted etc. I couldn't wait for it to end. Was I expecting too much or would you have helped to keep an eye on the kids in such a situation and disaplined them when hurting my dog etc?

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MinistryofMamamagic · 12/07/2007 04:50

I'm not sure... I think you were doing a lovely thing & I would have expected parents to keep their children under control and certainly to have stopped them from hurting the dog.

Maybe I'm lucky in that when my friends & I get together, we all take responsibility for our own children and ensure that they behave appropriately in the other person's home (as much as a 2 year old can, anyway).

Its odd to imagine people in winter when we are at the end of a heatwave!

{hugs} for doing something so nice!

yawningmonster · 12/07/2007 05:06

In the most part it was lovely and generally the kids were very good considering being stuck inside, there was not stuff to do every second and I think that caused the kids to act up in boredom perhaps but was really not happy about the dog and going into rooms that were closed.

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yawningmonster · 12/07/2007 09:01

bump

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LittleLupin · 12/07/2007 09:07

No, they absolutely should have watched their own children.

We had people here a few months ago, and "someone" decided to go up into our bedroom... I know because things that were on my bedside table ended up in our living room (nothing embarrassing, thankfully!) and I know exactly which child it was because I kept catching him going upstairs (he's 4). I don't blame him, he's a child, but his parents made NO effort to monitor him at all.

Lord, I hadn't realised I was still annoyed about that! Anyway, I sympathise. Your poor dog too .

Leati · 12/07/2007 09:18

It was like a hundred plus degrees today here. The last get together I had was for the Fourth of July. There were over ten kids at my house and it was great. Because it is so hot... I set up tons of water toys in the front...set out sidewalk chalk... bubble lawn mower...and tons of bottles of bubbles for everyone. We cut up a watermelon and the kids devoured it in two minutes.

My kids are often the "horrific" kids but I don't expect someone else to discipline them. If they are being naughty at someone elses house, I am going to be embarrased and they are going to be in trouble.

yawningmonster · 12/07/2007 09:25

thanks for the replies, I love planning and holding get togethers normally but was a little gob smacked by this one. The 7year old walked in (I hadn't met him before as he is older brother of my ds' friend and is usually at school) and took one look at the food and said "EW yuck that looks so disgusting" His mum laughed, I thought was rude!!

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PestoMonster · 12/07/2007 09:28

That was bl**dy rude.

Leati · 12/07/2007 09:37

I have a picky one and there is no keeping him and his loud opinions quiet. It is can be very embarrassing from my stand point. When I reprimand him, he is quick to apologize with a shrug and devilish grin that tells you he really isn't.

yawningmonster · 12/07/2007 09:43

he wasn't picky when it came to actually eating the food, he gobbled it down with the best of them so not because he wasn't keen on food just looking for a reaction I think

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yawningmonster · 12/07/2007 10:01

one last bump for opinions as am still stewing it round in my head must learn to let things go

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lljkk · 12/07/2007 10:08

I can't believe the parents were so oblivious to their children acting up. What a lovely idea your party was, and YANBU.

helenhismadwife · 14/07/2007 17:19

what a lovely thing to do

I probably over discipline my kids when we are in other peoples houses worry so much about them damaging something or doing something that is not acceptable in the hosts home. I dont think you are being unreasonable I think the parents should have done or said something when it was obvious that what the children were doing was not acceptable. Oh and the 7 year old was bloody rude

Can I come to your next party please I promise to keep my kids under control

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