FIL Funeral

[19lottie82]

My FIL is ill and the doctors think he has a couple of weeks left, at most.

He’s not a very nice man and I haven’t spoken to him in around 5 years, due to how he’s treated my DH and I.

I could write a 20 page of list of all the horrible stuff he’s done but there’s not really any point.

So my question is, do I go to the funeral to support my DH? He will be looking after his mum anyway (who I don’t speak to either because of FIL) and his two older teen DDs will be there.

Part of me thinks I should go to support DH but the other part of me would feel like a total hypocrite.

Just seen your most recent reply; you might just be in a unique position to be of tremendous support to your MIL over the coming months as she processes any relief and mixed feelings she has about not being under his spell/control/shadow any more. If you are able and willing to be somebody that she dare criticise her dead husband to if she needs to, I'd definitely say that's a reason to start to show your support to her at the funeral. But obviously that's entirely your choice.

MIL isn’t a bad person, she’s just been with him for 50 years + and is totally controlled by him / would never go against his wishes. It’s quite sad really
This is exactly what my dh thought / said about his mum for the 15 yrs that I was NC before his father passed , it planned out that left to her own devices she was as equally difficult and nasty as FIL , hence why I am still NC and she doesn’t see either of her adult GC .

I think if your DH wishes you to be there, you should go.