Is it normal for kids to ignore parents when they’re asked...

[OverwateredCheeseplant]

... to brush their teeth/ get in the bath/ get dressed/ get their coat on etc? Every day in day in day out I have to ask my son (8) to do stuff about ten times before he will ever take notice and I end up having to count to five and if I get to five there will be a consequence, eg no using the PlayStation or something. I never get to five, he always sprints over and does the thing by then, but it drives me fucking mad that he ignores me and thinks he can do that over and over again every day. It stresses me out and I end up getting angry with him particularly during the school run etc.

The rest of the time he’s a very well behaved boy!

Stop counting. If it isn't done first time of asking then immediate consequence and make that clear.

Lol, ds was selectively deaf but always responded as soon as I said ONE! Wait until he hits his teens!

I hope it’s normal or I might have to throw my 6 year old away and try again! I’m not good enough at this parenting stuff for the counting, I end up screaming like a psycho for him to put his shoes on 🙄

Perfectly normal LOL! I would however consider giving him a visual timetable of things he needs to do by a certain time. I used this for both mine - it saved me having to nag.

Yes my 5 year old is like this. It can drive me mad. I have to resort to counting . 9/10 it works.

This is my 3 year old, I'm sick of hearing myself argue with Mr nobody every morning trying to get out the door!

Won't respond to their name but mine can hear a packet of crisps being opened two floors away.

It's very normal. Irritating but normal.

So annoyingly normal. It’s nice to hear that others are the same. I need to learn how to not lose it when this happens.

Yes they ignore you because they are kids trying it on. Mine tried but loss of gaming privileges for being cheeky!

I end up having to count to five

No you don’t.

You’re choosing to count to five and he’s choosing to take his sweet time to do it.

Choose NOT to count to 5, just issue the consequence immediately. He can then choose between doing it immediately or the consequence.

OR do what I did. I was fed up of the entire morning routine, one morning I was massively pissed off & I threatened to put them in the car at x time irrespective of what they were wearing and take them to school.

I did. One in pants, one in PJ’s.

Both upset & saying they couldn’t go to school dressed like that. I said ‘Tough. You were warned and I am fed up of this every morning’ etc etc almost all the way to school.

I pulled over, handed them uniforms and school shoes and told them that next time I would NOT be doing that.

Mornings weren’t a problem after that. On the odd occasion they were pissing about in the mornings I merely had to mention ‘School in PJ & Pants?!...’ and they’d shift.

They laugh about it now - and they’re too bloody big to pick up these days - it didn’t do them any harm at all and it saved my sanity.

Don’t count to five. Ask them once, ask them again saying if you don’t do xxx I will remove yyyy and do it