Im getting married soon. My dd asked if she could arrange my hen do and it involves a few nights away.
All good. As I understand that's not for everyone another friend had organised a separate hen do which is just for the evening to a town not too far away. I don't know all the details but do know that she's consulted my other friends and arranged it to suit everyone.
Now the issue is this.
I have 3 very good friends, I'll call them A B and C.
We all live spread out with A and C living the furthest apart and me in the middle.
We've been away together on lots of occasions and have similar tastes/interests.
B is coming to my overnight hen do.
C isn't coming and I didn't expect her to as she is breastfeeding.
A isn't coming and has given several differing reasons.
C is coming to the night time hen do.
B can't come due to being away.
I thought A would come as ,without outing myself, it is the type of thing she is usually up for plus it's no further away than I went for her 2 hen dos.
To be honest I could have done without going on her 2 hen dos but the second one was only for the 4 of us as B couldn't make the main one.
B works away for a living so has lots of commitments hence why she isn't coming to my evening hen do.
Now I went on both of A's hen dos because if not it would have meant only A and B going as C was heavily pregnant and I didn't want to let A down.
Now the 4 of us are having a get together and it's transpired that A is arranging it as my hen do!
I've told her that I already have 2 hen dos and her response was im not coming on your other hen dos!
Her dh is working and I know he has lots of money and pays for virtually everthing, she has told me. So it's not a lack of money.
He will be working the evening of the 2nd hen do.
she doesn't have any dependants.
Now she has arranged for us to go to a remote place and have cocktails and a meal. It's a 45 minute drive for friend C and too far away for either C or I to pay for a taxi.
It's also a very corporate/wedding type place and not somewhere you'd go for a cheap night/catch up type thing.
It's also very expensive.
When I asked how we would get there/home she replied that her dh would take her and bring her home!
I'm quite annoyed as
- I don't need or want another hen do.
2)it's not very kind booking somewhere that only suits her.
Also C has messaged me to ask what's going on. She was unaware that A is not going on the hen do and was asking me why. She also says it's far too expensive for her.
I've sent a message to the group saying I'm not going. B and C have both responded saying we will meet in the middle and go to a cheap pub.
A has not responded.
Is there something im missing?
I don't w any to fall out with A but even my easy going dp thinks she's acting very odd.
Sorry for the long post.