AIBU to find this really annoying.

[MrsNacho]

I am working this weekend from home. DP works away and we dont live together so see each other at weekends. I told him I am working and suggested he catches up with his friends this weekend instead.

He said no I will come round anyway and make cups of tea and what not. Ok fine, he comes round last night and his friends were texting him asking was he out this weekend. Again I encouraged him to go and again he was adamant he didn't want to.

This morning his friends text asking is he coming to watch the football, I could tell he wanted to so again encouraged it. He was adamant he didn't want to go.

So we went to Asda and on the way I mentioned what I was making for dinner tonight and said I would make a roast tomorrow for me him and my step mum since its mothers day.

All good, I go in to Asda and buy the food. We get home and then he says - oh I am going out at 3.

Why the hell did he wait till I had been and bought dinner and extras for tomorrow before telling me he was going out! I would have just had something from the freezer tonight.

AIBU to be annoyed that he didn't just say in the first place that he was going out.

(There is no issues with him seeing his friends, he doesn't need permission or need to skirt around it or anything. He is a grown adult who can do as he pleases - I dont know if his ex used to give him a hard time or something? We have been together less than a year)

Yes a bit annoying, will he be there tomorrow or not?

the lure of his mates, he possibly thought that you wouldn't bother with work if he was there, so when you did what you needed to do he got bored. makes my teeth itch when people mess me about like this.

If he is going out at 3pm it doesn't mean he can't join you for lunch. He's taking advantage of you though, who hangs around when somebody is working instead of getting on with their own life - is he always this insecure?

He will be too hung over to come for dinner tomorrow which is why I asked so many times what he was doing before I go to the effort to cook a whole roast. Step mum would have been happy with anything. Now I have a whole leg of lamb between the two of us.

I’ll come for lunch! Can’t see my teens making me anything tomorrow they are are too busy with coursework! I love lamb too!!

Could it be he decided to opt out when he heard your step-mum was coming?

My step mum was invited last weekend so he already knew.

I think his ex must have kicked up a fuss when he went out and so he dances round the issue looking for permission or something. They lived together and had kids so different circumstances to us.

@SnowyAlpsandPeaks you are more than welcome!