Unfairness

[Bessie7654321]

Is it ok to save up for only selected grandchildren?

Wow, I’d be furious if it were true. Livid would be an understatement.

My parents adore my two nephews but not so fussed about my two sons - I think because we live further away and they didn’t see them as much whereas they looked after my nephews to let my brother and his wife work without paying childcare.

I don’t get uptight about it because there’s bugger all I can do about it. My sons - after years of being ignored by them - don’t care.

Our son has ALWAYS been treated less fairly than BILs brood. It used to make my blood boil but I don't care anymore.
At my FIL's funeral it was mentioned how he left 7 grandchildren.
I know maths isn't my strong point but :-
2 from my husband's first marriage
1 from our current marriage
3 from brother in law.
Doesn't that make 6?

Oh yes - for got the one from my husband's first wife with her new husband - no blood relation at all!

So have you asked your in laws if this is actually correct. How old are the cousins and how old are your dcs. Are you sure they are saving every month or did they have some money they put into an account for the ousins and your children came along after and they no longer had the money?

I had the same growing up, my dad's mum favoured my cousins over me and my brother, didn't bother me, we only seen her once a year! But my mum's mum spoiled us rotten, and her other 2 grandkids