AIBU: To want them to stop texting!

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I’m almost 41 weeks preg. Finished up work 2 weeks ago and EVERY SINGLE FUCKING DAY since I’ve finished this girl from work has text asking if the baby’s been born yet 🙄 it’s driving me mental! One of DD’s school friends mum has also been texting on a daily basis for the past week asking the same thing.
Now, at least a dozen times a day, I’m getting texts from other friends, family members, in-laws, other work colleagues asking if baby has made an appearance.

I have other DC’s and a house to run, plus I hate texting at the best of times so I just wish they would stop. Feel like I’m writing the same reply over and over again! I have said to everyone of them I’d keep them updated but they still keep texting.

Why can they just understand that, if anything happens, they will hear from me.

AIBU to be annoyed about the texting?

I feel ya! I went 15 days overdue with my baby and honestly everyone and his nan were texting me near the end. Just put your phone on silent and ignore. Get your partner to update the 'important' people. Relax. Have long sleeps and long baths and chill out and ignore. You cant help but get narked but just dont let it get to you.

You dont have to answer. It's not a command.

People are only being nice and interested, irritating though that bay be - you'll be more uset a couple of months down the line if eveyone falls away and you're lonely and isolated.

How about "I'm taking some time out now before the baby comes, please dont text or call, I need my rest, (DH) and I will let you all know when there is any news" - then simply do not answer any more texts.

Just don't reply

Block them all until your baby is born.

'It might have been. I've been on a crack binge all week so anything could have happened'

@iklboo

😂😂😂😂😂 I might use that!

Send out a mass text saying that you’ll be in touch once the baby is here. I get that it’s annoying but at least they care.

Hope things happen soon!

I was 11 days over and people were actually getting frustrated with me. After a long labour a more senior midwife came in a said "right marlena1 you need to get this baby out". Oh really, is that the aim?

Didn’t bother me on the slightest!

But if it bothers you, it bothers you.

Realistically unlikely more than a few days more at most, so rather than create drama, i’d just suck it up if I were you

I texted people back telling them to stop asking and I'll tell them when the baby is out.

I think you can get away with it when you're preggers. A friendly fuck off lol

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Blanket text time:

'Hi, this is a global text to all so rest assured I'm not singling anyone out! This is to let you all know that over the last week, I've had between 25-50 texts every day asking the same question (no prizes for guessing what the question is!). My phone is pinging non stop and at 41 weeks pregnant I'm beginning to find it really stressful and distracting and I need a break! :) I've already said I'll let people know as soon as we have news. From now on, I'm going to be switching my phone off for a good chunk of every day so I can get some rest, and staying away from the texts for a bit - so please don't think the worst if you don't hear from me for a couple of days. Hope you all understand and lots of love!'

So stop replying!

They'll live.

That is a mental text to send anyone Fizzy

Yes, OP I get why it's irritating but those texting you are just interested, and I think you can ignore the texts if you wish, but don't pull them up on it. Few more days new baby will be here and this will all be in the past.

Best of luck

"Hmm, not sure. I'll check and get back to you"

Then don't get back to them.

I was 14 days late with DS and I got pissed off with the texts
I started replying “he was born 3 days ago but we didn’t say anything as we decided to leave him at the hospital “

The paradox of aksing if a baby has arrived is that the only reply you can possibly receive is a negative one.

If they are giving birth, or recovering straight after, they are not in a position to reply.

If the baby has been born, more than about a day ago, you'll have been told.

Ergo, if you don't know the answer and, they are able to reply, the answer is no.

So stop banging your head on a paradoxical wall and wait until you've been informed!

Just tell them that. Once.

Why can they just understand that, if anything happens, they will hear from me.

Tell them that and ignore all further texts.

I think Fizzy's text is great! Friendly, and addresses the fact that most people are probably unaware that they're one of about 20 sending a daily text. They probably think they're the only one asking, but I think most people would understand that it's stressful to be asked the same question 2-3 times every hour that you're awake for days on end!

ex's friend kept ringing me to see if baby had come yet. yes, they care, they are trying to be nice but do not factor in the fucking grumpiness of being 41 weeks pregnant.

...or their own idiocy at failing to recognise that the only possible answer is no.

The only people for whom asking this question makes sense, is people with whom you have no other form of contact and who you are unlikely to include in any birth announcement = not people you're close enough to, to welcome daily texts from!

I know they’re only trying to be nice and they care (except the girl from work who is just a nosey fucker) But, It’s frustrating that I have to send an almost identical text umpteen times a day. I have tried the no replying - then certain ones think I’ve went into labour and text again “oh, you’ve not replied - are you in labour”

@lottiegarbanzo - I love your response!!

Phones going on silent now and I’m going to jump up and down then drink some raspberry tea

YABU - people are just trying to be nice.

I think Fizzy's text is great!

Text? It is an essay!

Don't reply. Simple.

I had this as I went 2 weeks over, drove me mental. I ended up texting all them saying if they didn't leave me alone I wouldn't tell them baby had arrived until it was 10 years' old.