CFs on facebook

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Now I’ll start by saying I know I don’t have to read but I’m in a ‘people help the people’ group and as I’m in need of an item I can’t currently afford to replace, I’ve been keeping an extra eye out.

But my god the people on there. They just expect! I saw a thread the other day where a man arranged to collect a washing machine and not one please or thank you the whole thread! And another woman posted about where she could find cheap party decorations for her child to later comment ‘I’m just looking for anything free to be honest and if anyone has any gifts’

AIBU and that these groups are bound to attract some unsavoury people or that they’re ruining it for people actually in need who have manners?! Has anyone else seen this behaviour.

There are CF wherever there are free things to be had! I often post things on Freecycle, and am constantly amazed by some of the posts I read on there … 'WANTED: washing machine, must be under 2 years old and in full working condition. I will need it delivering and plumbing in as I am old/disabled/lazy as' etc. I have had people respond to my ads telling me that I will have to deliver to them - even though they are still at the initial requesting the item stage, and I haven't said they can have it - without a please/thank you/could you etc. I've offered items to people only to have them say 'and what else have you got?' I'm pretty good at weeding out the CFs now, but I do still get amazed by some of them.

I was a member of a similar group in my area and I had to leave as i found the same as you. A number of people asking for things for weddings was the last straw. (The page was set up to help find bits for homeless who had been recently housed)

@Piffle11 if I get multiple people wanting my Gumtree or whatever item, I always let the one who has been most polite (or normal) have it. Petty, well maybe

That's the thing, isn't it? I won't offer a item to someone who can't be arsed to stick a 'please' or 'thank you' in their reply, or who start off listing their demands before they've even been offered the item. So if you're petty, then I am too!

I was a member of a group like this and whilst the lack of manners was irritating, it's wasn't half as irritating as the posts pointing out the lack of manners. Yes, it's rude not to say thank you, but to get so wound up by someone taking your tat off you for free that you feel you need to call people out on it is just as bad. That's why I left, the sanctimonious, snippy groups that developed. Manners is not all just 'please and thank you'.