I hate mothers' day

[Mmmmdanone]

Just that really. Stupid, commercial, restaurants busy, waste of everyone's time. Hate it. Doesn't help that I have a particularly bad memory of one when I had a newborn and my lazy husband sent my DD to wake me up at stupid o'clock with a gift ( he was in bed, I was in another room with newborn ds finally getting some sleep). It was sweet but ffs could he not have told her to leave me for a bit longer. It still rankles 10 years later!

Hmm. My first reactions to your post are:

Wow that was 10 years ago, grudge holder much? And at least he got you a present!! And she was probably super excited to give it to you and couldn't wait?

And:

Why on earth would you go to a restaurant? Particularly if you hate it if they are busy.

I am not really looking forward to it because my mum is dead, and my mother in law who I used to spoil instead also recently died.

sigh

I don't like mother's Day much either. My mum puts all this pressure on me and I just can't handle it. I can't live up to her expectations, so I spend the whole day waiting to be screamed at for getting it wrong. I don't get to enjoy the day with my children at all, because my mum expects me to put her above them. It's just one big stressful experience for me now.

Tbh OP of that's the worst thing you've got to moan about, your life must be pretty sweet.

Cuppa have you ever tried putting some boundaries in place w your mum? Or just doing what you fancy for a change?

Oh I hear you but apart from the commercialism, different reasons

Mine is now a teen, who can barely speak to me without snarling & rolling her eyes, I'm constantly accused of stuff I don't do & she can be really cutting & nasty.

I'd rather not bother with Mother's Day, it's all bollocks to pretend to appreciate all the effort I make to help her 1 Day a year & if it's anything like my birthday is will be a last minute after thought shop at our local late supermarket. I'd rather have her be nice to me a bit more often during the rest of the year, right now it just feels like a load of false bollocks out in because she feels she has to

I find the drama and expectations of it have become ridiculous - it's stressful and over the top. I'm sure it never used to be so much messing about and money spent. I feel sorry for some of the dad's out there being thrown to the wolves for not making Mother's Day the most magical fantastical day of a woman's life... get me a sick bucket...

But I also think it can be a really nice day, especially if you have young ones who've made you homely little cards and a terrible breakfast in bed. That's the really heartwarming stuff that makes lovely memories. So certainly has it's up sides

I hate mothers day too op. It makes me feel like i am chucking money down the drain. I appreciate my dm all year round anyway so there is simply no point in doing anything for mothers day. I also end up avoiding fb on mothers day as i could not care less what my friends have got for their dm on mothers day. The only memory of mothers day from my childhood is going out for a Sunday dinner and my dm saying that it would have been cheaper to cook it herself.v