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Tapestry app used to observe “bad” behaviour and linked to EYFS stage

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Kippenbelladonna · 28/03/2019 07:37

I’m fuming as this has happened two consecutive days this week and on each of the days no observations of his activities and learning have been made. I feel it’s an inappropriate and shaming way of communicating with my DH and I who usually enjoy reading the posts during our working day. What would you say to the head of nursery? I’m feeling so PO I’m worried I might make the situation worse.
My DS turned three in January and started at a school nursery. The teacher reported his undesirable behaviour appropriately in the past until about a fortnight ago. It’s a small environment with well trained teachers and there are only 8 kids in his year group, so they are hardly stretched. He’s very active and strong willed but a likeable child. His previous nursery was quite feral and he can struggle to sit still and listen as he’s used to just doing his own thing. His language is quite advanced so it’s not an issue with understanding and we do have good routines at home. There seems to be more expectation for us to “tell him what behaviour is appropriate” rather than understanding what caused it in the moment and coming up with solutions.

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IceRebel · 28/03/2019 07:43

Without knowing what behaviour they have reported on, it's impossible to know who is being unreasonable.

roundligament · 28/03/2019 07:44

I thought tapestry was to track development

Sirzy · 28/03/2019 07:46

What’s the point of them only posting the positives? How is that going to help him?

Helix1244 · 28/03/2019 08:03

It is a bit like a report they generally only post positives.
Personally i agree that a more honest balanced 'x was playing with y and when y took the toy x hit them'. Highlights sharing as a issue - for both actually.
My dc has had a couple of obs saying they were assisted to play nicely.
Imo eg wgere my dc shouts at others when they try to snatch things and grabs the thing back, i would rather know.
Also it can be unclear why they are stuck in the lower age brackets.

whohaa · 28/03/2019 08:13

They are right to inform you of bad behaviour, but not via tapestry! That is not what it is for.

thenewzealandstory · 28/03/2019 08:19

Good lord no!
Tapestry is a great tool but that is the last thing that it is for!
Tell them this is not acceptable and that of course you need to know if incidents happen but please can they arrange a meeting with you to discuss them and not post things on Tapestry.
I can only hope this wasn't a group observation and shared with other parents. Just so unprofessional.

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