So I gave birth to my daughter abroad where my father lives and came home with LO in December.
I am now currently living with my partner, MIL and 2 BIL's. The house has 3 rooms and an attic. For now with DD, I can handle being a little pushed for room. Not going to lie, we struggle for space to keep her things and I generally feel like the house is a constant mess because there's no space to keep her things. Her things are spread out among a few cupboards, some of which I cannot even reach which is terribly annoying!
I have recently found out that I am expecting baby number 2. It was unplanned as we wanted to wait until we had our own place but nonetheless I am still extremely chuffed to give DD a sibling.
I get frustrated because MIL is always on the phone and the BIL's and even DH can be noisy when DD is trying to sleep (she is an extremley light sleeper and everyone is fully aware of this). I am constatly asking everyone to respect the fact that she is sleeping but I feel if I have to ask one more time, I will bite someones head off!!!!!!!!!!!
I have explained to DH that we now need our own space as I cannot bring up two children in one constricted room. I have explained to him that it is not fair to either child. I have told him numerous times that I feel cramped and it frustrates me. Here comes the annoying part.. In around 2 months time, my BIL's wife will be moving in. I already feel as though everyone is always in each other's way and there is forever someone in the toilet when I need to go - this is just going to get worse as time goes on - especially with my pregnancy bladder :(
DH does not want to move out of his mothers house for another 2 years as "I need to learn to cook". I have told him numerous times I can cook and even my own family have told him I can cook and I have cooked for him on a few occasions but majority of the time, MIL does the cooking because all 3 boys can be fussy and they expect her to cook twice a day every day. I get in to the kitchen as much as I can but with LO, it can be a handful. I am not making excuses for myself at all but I help with housework as much as I can and right now, the smell of chicken absolutely repulses me so majority of the time something is being cooked, I am upstairs in the bedroom.
I understand that homes are expensive and so is rent which is why I have explained to DH that I can ask my dad to loan us the money we need for a house. I can't imagine him saying no as he paid for DD's birth. DH says that if my father gives the money, he will not move with me.
I get very frustrated with DH every time we have this discussion as he always finds a way to discredit what I'm saying to him and it really frustrates me to think I'm going to have two babies under 2 in one room at night. I feel as though DH is being too much of a mummy's boy and does not want to learn independence.
I know my emotions are running high with all of the hormones so AIBU? Am I right to feel frustrated?