No engagement acknowledgement.

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Dp and i are engaged and he told his mum. I have met her many times.. We went to visit his mum. She didn't mention it. She did confide in me when dp wasn't there that she still dosn't understand what happened with his ex wife. Dp knows this and wasn't impressed.
Dp has explained all( ex ran off). In many ways she is lovely but aibu to think she should put the past behind her and celebrate her son's future?

Maybe she just felt awkward about bringing it up and was waiting for you to?. If she already knew and said her congratulations when she found out, then I’m not sure what you’d expect her to say following that. Unless there’s more of a backstory

What are the timescales on all of this?
Sounds like an odd thing to say to me!

Could it be that it all feels very quick to her?

Does your DO see his mum often?

We have been together for 3 years . Is that too quick?! His ex and he split up 2 years before he met me.

It doesn't sound particularly fast, no.

Really fucking bizarre OP. Why on earth would a DM not even mention an engagement?? I’d expect a congratulations at the very least. Even if she’s not happy with the news, surely it would be brought up in convo one way or another?
And her comment about the ex is also strange

It's weird isn't it? Oh well. I just want to be welcomed into the fold as it were..

It's a bit odd. I suppose for some people they find it hard to let go of the past.

A couple of my friends are engaged (2nd time) and it's not been as much of a big deal, no engagement party or much talk about it. Definitely less excitement than 1st time.

Although it has been a long time are they actually divorced? If not, she may be of an age where she thinks you shouldn't be engaged until the divorce is through?

Divorce has gone through...at least a year ago.