To just not like her for this reason

[whyistheheatingnoton]

Oh brothers fiancé just happens to get on my nerves 100s of selfies a day uploads them on every social media site. OH says I'm mean but my god she's annoying.

surely that is a good enough reason to dislike someone? Or am I actually a miserable old lady.

Also plasters photos of my children all over her social media when I don't even have my kids on mine.

I set fb up that I don't get notifications unless I am tagged in, so much easier.
I ignore annoying friends, one has a habit of sharing every alternative parenting article she can find, I just scroll on.

But kids is a no-go for me. I don't even upload one of DD if there is a friend on it where I can't tag the parent. So it is your right to ask her to stop this.

Well, just ask her not to post pics of your dc if you don;t want them on social media. If you haven't asked her, she can't be expected to know.

If you are the one feeling so strongly about your children on being on social media (absolutely fair enough) I think you should be the person to ask her not to. Your OH can then police this when he takes the children over to there. It will come over as a bit pathetic / controlling if your OH asks her not to because you don't like it.

Stop following her on FB/social media.

I'm going to tell OH next time to tell her not too

Why don't YOU ask her not to? it's you that's upset.

It's not going to look good if I unfollow her though will be awkward next time I see her.

Make your mind up. You don't like her; what do you care what she thinks?

I would take issue with her putting pics of my kids all over SM and would dislike her for that reason alone. YANBU.

Ah, I see, I missed it while posting. As is common to these threads inviting a pile on to some random person with minorly irritating behaviour, there is an obligatory dripfeed to show that this person is even more worthy of our contempt than was made apparent in the OP.

Only, in this case, it seems the really contemptible person is actually OH’s brother rather than the fiancée. Why focus on her low-level annoying selfie posting for this thread OP, when his racism is the far more problematic issue?

I don’t know I think people’s behaviour is an indicator of there personality myself. Plastering selfies indicates an obsession with herself and she’s probably a bit self centred 🤷‍♀️. Not sure I’d actively dislike but certainly wouldn’t appeal to me.,

Their not there obviously

I suspect you just dislike her full stop. For reasons you don't wish to articulate so are using this as a reason to justify it.

Grow up and ask her not to put pics of your children on SM. You are completely entitled to do this.

Even my sisters always ask me before they post a pic of my DD on any social media. We all do.

I couldn't dislike someone for the fact they post a load of selfies. In fact, I think these people are rather insecure and are seeking validation.

I suspect there is more to this dislike than stated in your OP, but you need to confront this yourself rather than getting your OH to do it. You don't want to do it because it would be awkward, so imagine how awkward it would be for him when it's his brothers fiancée.

GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA - problem solved

I think you're getting a hard time here - I do post some pics of my kids on FB but wouldn't want someone else posting lots of them. It sounds like she's quite self absorbed - why the need to do constant updates. YANBU. I would ask her to stop posting so many pics of the kids. Maybe go through your brother though?

Mute notifications & her feeds. Tell her you don't want pictures of your children on social media instead of fussing to yourself. Call out racism when you witness it instead of thinking to yourself "How awful" but doing nothing. Don't start threads about selfies when the bigger issue is racism!

I think I am beginning to self-id as an Unkind Woman. One of the worst things you cna be to some posters on Mumsnet!

This would be enough for me not to like someone. I just wanted to say that I think that's totally fine, and I think people who like everyone indiscriminately usually could do with raising their standards!

The only thing id be bothered about is her posting pictures of my children without my permission.

But so what if shes confident & enjoys posting selfies

@burritofan I'm black myself so i was very uncomfortable I wasn't going to say anything in an already heated situation. I said to OH I will never go out with them.

I just unfollow relatives who post crap on social media. They are nice people just post too much irritating crap.

I think some people's personalities on social media are often at odds with how they are perceived in real life. One of my best friends posts constantly on FB, yoga poses, selfies, 'empowering' quotes loads of stuff that makes her look like a self obsessed tosser, but in real life she is wonderful! So her prolific, wanky postings don't bother me. Take people on face value, not what they post. Most of the time, attention seeking is down to low self worth.

If you dont like someone then you dont like them it is as simple as that. It doesn't matter the reason, however petty it seems. You cant like everyone and you cant force yourself to like a person, that is unhealthy. The best you can do is be tolerable and polite.

As for posting pics of your kids, ask her in person once to remove them. If she doesnt remove them within a couple of days under every pic of your dcs you can find write the words "i have asked you not to post pics of MY dcs on sm, please remove them asap" she will look like a twat if she doesnt.

The occasional selfie, like once every few months or whatever, fine.

People who take them and post them every single Day are vain and attention seeking IMO.

Doesn't make them a horrible person, but it is irritating.

So she takes selfies which puts you off, I actually don’t blame you for this - it would make me think differently about someone if I knew they obsessively took selfies and updated social media. What I find more bizarre though is that the brother is only thrown in as an aside. The gf may be annoying, but he’s an aggressive/violent racist. That should have been your post, it’s a thousand times worse! I wouldn’t let my kids be anywhere near a man who racially abused, or even just abused, a taxi driver. Get your priorities right and throw your distain at the actual nasty person in this scenario. Re the gf again I WOULD turn my nose up at someone who was in a relationship with a racist. What does your DH day about his brother’s behaviour? Why are your kids there with them if they’re so awful?

@whyistheheatingnoton Ah! Sorry to school you on racism then. Fair enough. My other advice remains the same – just mute. Some people have an all-selfie feed; whatever works for them. Hers probably gets to you more because she's not a great person to begin with.

I like a lot of people in real life that seem like right Silly Billys on social media.

Yanbu op, just unfollow .

The 36 yo DD of a close friend is always updating her profile photo, almost daily. She's a lovely intelligent woman but clearly obsessed with selfies. I can imagine it being a good reason to dislike someone😄