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Aibu to think there's more to life than this?

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Holidaylover · 25/03/2019 17:27

Hi i just need a little moan, feeling a bit sorry for myself. I am so very lucky to be a stay at home parent but gosh I'm lonely and stuck in a rut. All of my children are now im school so I'm alone during the day. Every day is groundhog day.

I am mid 30s and for various reasons I now have no friends. Its just hubby, kids and I.
Whilst I love doing things as a family I don't have my own social life.

I have not been out dancing for 10 years. I miss it. I have not been out to lunch with a friend for a long time. I arent able to go to spa days, girly shopping trips, meals out, girly holidays etc because i don't have anyone to do it with. I see lots of people on social media doing these things and it gets to me.

Most of the time I accept this is how life is for me but sometimes I like today when it's lovely and sunny I feel really lonely and like I'm missing out and life is passing me by.

Does anyone else feel like this? What can I do to make myself feel better?

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BackforGood · 25/03/2019 21:28

Of course YANBU to think there is more to life than that.
In terms of what you can do about it - there is just so much you could do:

Apply for jobs
Start volunteering - this could be in the day when dc are at school or one or two evenings a week
You could volunteer for something that might be within your comfort zone..... PTA at school? / hearing readers / helping in the classroom at school?........ or using skills you have (maybe volunteering at a lunch club, or for Homestart {you'd need to commit to the time and take some training}, or at a local playgroup r stay and play ?)........ or going a bit outside your comfort zone.

If you want to make friends, get to know more people then there are lots of schemes looking for befrienders - Age UK, MHA, charities for adults with learning difficulties.
If you want to make mre friends your own age, what about joining something more active, like Scouts / Guides / BB or GB / etc.

Take up a hobby that is essentially about chatting with people - Knit and Natter / Rambling Club / Book Club / Crafting Club

What do you want to be doing with your life for the next 40 years ? Would it help to study? Learn new skills ? Get more qualifications, or update those you have ?

Do you want to sing ? Play sport ? Garden ? work with the public ? work with a small team in an office? Fundraise?

deste · 25/03/2019 22:04

Join a gym and go to the organised group classes and within a month or so you will start recognising people and they will recognise you. If they go for a coffee afterwards ask if you would mind if you could join them. Zumba classes tend to be very friendly.

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