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children that are firghtened of dogs and how i find some parents are encouraging their fear

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haychee · 11/07/2007 10:46

I have 2 medium to large dogs and i get so cross when i come accross children that just lose the plot if the dogs go near them. I can understand that they are frightened and i call the dogs away from the child instantly. But what makes me cross is the parents responses, "that dog should be on a lead" or i just get looks that could kill you dead. My arguement is, that if the child is that frightened then why would you take him or her to a place where dogs are everywhere in a dog walking area. Why do parents encourage their childrens fear by making these comments? what good does it do for the child? I actually saw one mother once who picked her child up every time the dog was anywhere close (like 4-5meters away). The child got increasingly anxious and the mother ended up having a go at me. I know and fully appreciate that some dogs are dangerous but mine arent and i think that when parents react like this infront of their children the message they are displaying is that its ok to be this frightened of dogs.

My daughter was once frightened of thunder so i purposely sat up with her watching a storm and saying things like "wow, that one was very loud" and " cor, look at that lightening isnt it beautiful". Because of this time i spent with her and the way we watched it together has dulled her fear - infact she gets quite excited if there is a storm brewing now.
Any one else feel the same or can understand where im coming from? or maybe your one of these types of parents that react like this? I would like to discuss the issue if anyone has any comments?

OP posts:
winestein · 12/07/2007 16:23

I know.... sorry
It was just something to make LittleLupin laugh. I was in a quiche with her earlier

ruty · 12/07/2007 16:24

you would certainly zookeeper.

LittleLupin · 12/07/2007 16:24

cheers winey

"Bum sniffing - how much is TOO much?"

MadEyemarthamooDy · 12/07/2007 16:25

This thread seems to be going round and round in circles...rather like a dog chasing its tail.

Haychee seems reluctant to allow that she is being a tad unreasonable (despite umpty-million posts telling her she is)...rather like a dog with a bone.

winestein · 12/07/2007 16:30

"My dog keeps dragging his ass across the carpet. Should I invest in some Shake and Vac?"

stressedoutmom · 12/07/2007 16:31

The dangerous dog act states

For the purposes of this Act a dog shall be regarded as dangerously out of control on any occasion on which there are grounds for reasonable apprehension that it will injure any person, whether or not it actually does so, but references to a dog injuring a person or there being grounds for reasonable apprehension that it will do so do not include references to any case in which the dog is being used for a lawful purpose by a constable or a person in the service of the Crown.

This basically means that any dog is classed as dangerous if it causes someone ele to be scared and any dog that goes up to another person and caused them to be scared can be classes as dangerous.

Jeez! I agree that dogs should be allowed to run off the lead ( I have one myself) but not if it is going to cause uset to someone else. I a aware that not everyone loves dogs or any of my animals which is why as a RESPONSIBLE dog owner I always put her back on a lead and yes she is highly trained and does agillity and sheep trials. Why would I want to take the risk.

LittleLupin · 12/07/2007 16:32

"Oh god my neighbour gave my PFD (pedigree first dog) a bonio - and it wasn't organic! Should I take him to the vet?!"

ruty · 12/07/2007 16:33

'Fleas and skid marks in the bed. Should Fluffy start sleeping downstairs?'

MMooMar · 12/07/2007 16:35

I keep my dog on a lead and my kid on reins when we are walking the dog
Get real narked when someone wont call their dog away from sniffing my dogs arse then mine jumps round to have a go at it....bloody move it!
Dont like other peoples kids from touching my dog either,he`s an angel with mine,but used to him,I dont want someone elses kid doing massive cartoon whacking pats on his head.
I love dogs but dont like other peoples running upto my son,like mine they might be ok but we all have off days.

winestein · 12/07/2007 16:36

See what you are saying Stressedoutmum, but I think the twist is in the "reasonable apprehension". I don't think a fear of dogs would be grounds for reasonable apprehension otherwise a dog could be classed as dangerous for just walking past someone who was scared of dogs.

zookeeper · 12/07/2007 16:37

No it doesn't say that - it says that a dog will be classed as dangerous if there are grounds for reasonable apprehension. This does not mean that a dog will be classed as dangerous just because someone is scared of it. the fear has to be reasonable

zookeeper · 12/07/2007 16:37

sorry x-posting - I was answering stressed out mum

winestein · 12/07/2007 16:38

"My dog keeps eating cat turds. What is the best toothpaste for him to use?"

LittleLupin · 12/07/2007 16:38

"DLW. Maximillian only like to eat fillet steak but it is quite expensive. Should DH and I have pasta or beans for tea?"

winestein · 12/07/2007 16:38

Blimey, Zoo. We agree!

winestein · 12/07/2007 16:40

Oi Lapin. My dog eats steak.
Admittedly not filet and he has his tablets concealed in it, but BACK OFF! RIGHT!!

108 to go

stressedoutmom · 12/07/2007 16:42

Sorry but I think that a dog bounding up to kids is cause for reasonable apprehesion cos how do you know it won't do anything.

I'm not naive enough to think that just cos someone is scared then it means the dog is dangerous.

LittleLupin · 12/07/2007 16:42

Winey, didn't you like "Dog Led Weaning" though... actually, should probably be "PLW"

zookeeper · 12/07/2007 16:43

I am losing the will to live

winestein · 12/07/2007 16:47

I think you would struggle with that one in a court of law as it was never the intention of the Dangerous Dogs act to condemn bouncy dogs.

It is reasonable apprehension whether injury was made or not, ie the dog was snapping, snarling or baring his teeth. Not that it was a goofball with a goofball of an owner who was unable to control it.

winestein · 12/07/2007 16:48

Ha ha - I didn't see the DLW

winestein · 12/07/2007 16:51

"I have a rotten sore throat. Do you think it has anything to do with the fact that my dog slipped his tongue in whilst giving me a kiss last night?"

whokilledharrypotter · 12/07/2007 16:57

I like dogs

whokilledharrypotter · 12/07/2007 16:58

hot dogs

whokilledharrypotter · 12/07/2007 16:58

Dogs in cages

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