AIBU to only give £10?

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Im going to a wedding in about 6 weeks. Im really broke as I lost my job recently and my redundancy pay is coming to an end so have no disposable income atm. Is it really stingy to only give £10 as a gift for a wedding where I’m only invited as an evening guest?

Not at all. I'd give 50 if a day guest, my partner and I gave a tenner each at an evening do so that sounds about right.

No problem just give what you can

Not at all. You should only give what you can afford. I would hope you have been invited to celebrate the start of their married life and not because you brought a gift

To me not at all. Some of our guests didn't give us a gift at all and I didn't care one bit; what was important was that they came and shared our day and had a great time. Going to weddings can be pretty expensive anyway for guests so I just appreciated the effort that everyone had made to be there with us, money wouldn't matter one jot - especially if I knew someone had lost their job.

Thank you. I was really worried I’d be judged for it

We'd brought a really nice set of coasters once, think it was around £10-£15. DP is a carer and only I work. The couple didn't mind at all and absolutely love the coasters! Was wooden ones in the shape of a heart with a pattern cut out, in a little holder.

Not at all. I'm getting married in a couple of months and honestly don't care if we don't get a single thing. Being a guest at a wedding can be expensive anyway and we invited people because we want them to share our day, not because we want presents.

Dp and I gave £10 each (so £20) towards their honeymoon when we were invited as evening guests to a wedding last year.

It's totally fine.A beautiful card with a nice message would mean more to me.

Absolutely fine!

I only spend about £20 when I'm not skint! It's fine op.

Personally I'd buy a nice bottle of wine and wrap it nicely rather than just give cash - even if they have asked for it. Means you feel like you are taking more.

That said I wouldn't expect anything and especially wouldn't want you to give what you haven't got.

Hope you are doing okay post redundancy and good luck with the job hunting.

Its lovely of you. Alternatively give them a box of nicely wrapped chocolates. Its the thought that counts. I wouldn't judge at all.

I got an I.O.U on my wedding, I rather shocked but understood the situation.

So from my point of view £10 is absolutely fine!

Aldi sell lovely, award winning champagne for £9.99. Wrap in nice tissue paper and cellophane. Would rather receive that than most things really!

NWQM Thankyou. It’s stressful and made even worse by my husband being at risk too but I’ve got a few interviews lined up so fingers crossed

Anyone who knows you and judges you for the position you are in is not worth knowing anyway OP. Give what you can afford and have a great time.