AIBU

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Cleanupthekitchen · 25/03/2019 08:43

I am a grandmother and also a mother. I lost my son of 39 years a year ago. He is the father of my grandchildren. His ex wife their Mother is saying I cannot see them because I remind them too much of their father. They are 13 and 15. Am I being unreasonable to expect to see them?

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mrsdavys · 25/03/2019 08:46

That’s horrible OP, I feel for you. What a horrid thing of her to say.
Not sure what can be done though as I think grandparents have no legal right to see their GC.

Madratlady · 25/03/2019 08:55

If that’s their wish (the children’s) I think maybe you should respect it for now, they’re grieving too. Can you stay in touch by sending birthday/Christmas/postcards etc, let them know they’re in your thoughts and you’d love to see them when they’re ready? If you had a good relationship before they might well want to see you again in their own time.

Fluffyears · 25/03/2019 09:10

I’d give them time but let them know you are always there. I’m so sorry for your loss.

PregnantSea · 25/03/2019 10:04

That's awful, so sorry OP.

FWIW I'm sure that this will be temporary. They're grieving and not thinking clearly.

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