To ask dh what he did with his day?

[sharond101]

I work Sundays. Dh takes the children to visit his Mum and then leaves them at my Mum's for the afternoon. He has chronic pain and working full time this gives him a chance to relax or do things he needs to do. I asked him this evening what he did with his day and he snapped back at me asking why I ask that question as he does nothing with his day. I said I was genuinely interested and he abruptly said he doesn't want asked as he does nothing. He's been really sore lately and pretty grumpy making no conversation at all. Is it really so bad to ask him what he did today?

XH used to ask me that when I was on maternity leave, it was always a dig that I hadn't done much round the house (usually if the baby had been unsettled) 🙄.

You know he has chronic pain so why ask? I would not be happ6 as it sounds like you expected something. I’m in a similar boat to your DH and can have days where I do very little. Fortunately I don’t have to work anymore. Pain is horrendously tiring, I described to DH that it was like having jet lag, tiredness caused by pain leaves a level of exhaustion I didn’t know exsisted.