I apologise in advance as I know how petty this might sound but just need an outsider perspective.
Been with dp for two years, mostly very happy. Before me he had a partner of about 5 years. I have known him a long time in a platonic sense and had him on my fb for many years before we got together so I used to see the gushy posts he would write about his then partner. Really over the top lovey dovey stuff that seemed even then completely out of character as he's quite hard faced in real life lol. Since being together he's never written a thing about me. No photos, no gushy posts. I realise how tragic it sounds but I just wonder why he was willing to shout about her from the rooftops and not me? He doesn't use fb all that much and when I once broached the issue (very badly after a few too many wines) he basically said he's a different person now which leads me to think she maybe egged him on to write it?
Also she's been a cow about us even though they'd been split a fair while before we got together. I'm a bit younger than him and I know she's gossiped and mocked our relationship as a 'joke'. It really pissed me off but dp made nothing of it. It's like nothing bad can be said about her. In one way I guess it's a good thing as men who slag off their partners mercilessly are always a bit of a red flag to me but I sometimes would have expected more support.
I guess what I'm worried about is if he's still hung up on her or did he prefer her to me. From what I can gather about her she's not a particularly nice person and wasn't all that nice to him when they were together but I just can't shake off the fb comments about her being 'the love of his life' and all that.
Am I being an idiot? I don't want to bring it up as an issue because as I mentioned I am younger and don't want to look immature. Fb isn't real life but I guess I just worry about what it signifies...