To feel angry

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At a friend who is showing concern and disapproval over 'Friend B's' New relationship?
B separated from husband after a long marriage and was crying to friend over it regularly and very much involving them. A few weeks on B met someone new and a couple months on introduced child to this partner.

The friend has voiced concern and cant look B in the face anymore/seems very quiet. Both friends are of the same sex/and are straight. Friend is close to B's child.

But the situation is different nowt, now B is introducing her child to the partner. I don't understand how you can't see that's worthy of raising concerns again? It's not like nothing's changed and A is just repeating herself

I just think at times you have to let people make their own choices and respect them.
Sometimes you can meet the best people in your life at the worst times. It can happen, there are stories on here of people who have achieved that.

When there are children involved people should exercise more caution and restraint though. There are plenty more threads on here where children caught up in new relationships (from either parent) end up being hurt.

A has said she has noticed some behaviours but B hasn't and I honestly haven't.

The child does seem happy and likes the new partner who is very good to him.

As I said, trying to look at this from both sides but still feel A should relax a bit and trust B is an adult and knows the child best.

But you ARE B aren't you? It would be somewhat less disingenuous if you just said so.

No. It's a family member who I am very close with and who I know is a good parent. That said, I also know the other person (A) is very nice too. Opening it up here for debate helps me see what an outsider away from personal bias might think.

She introduced the new man to her DC far, far too soon. She was selfish to.

I'm with A on this. You aren't impartial.

You aren't impartial, you've asked AIBU but refuse to accept it when the majority say you are.

B is quite welcome to get into a new relationship. There's no need what so ever for that to impact her child in any way at such early days. But she's chosen to let it. Ill advised and not very fair in my opinion, but she's the parent that's up to her.
But to be angry that somebody has dared to express concern about it? VVVU. You/B don't have to agree with the concern, (although if A knows the child well, I would be listening to it) but you can't be angry that it is there.

How old is the child?

She said she feels judged by A for it. A adores the child.

The kid is eight and really likes the new partner.

So A is a good person and good to the child and close to the child

She has concerns and you and B are pissed off that she is concerned. You want her to shut up, even though it's likely this will all go tits up......but still want her to look after the child (paid I presume).

This is after B spent time crying on As shoulder, dragged her into it but then perked up as soon as there was a new cocol on the scene.

She is right to be concerned. You shouldnt be too.

*should be concerned

I know B is reconsidering having A look after the child now as its just become very awkward.

These replies have helped me see it from A's perspective a little more.

Jesus. She is going to change childcare because she feels judged by her friend?

That's not very fair on the child is it?

To be fair I think the atmosphere has got pretty tense now so it's probably for the best.

Then she needs to keep her child care and friends separate. For her child sake. You say that it hasnt impacted the child but you posted on another thread

6 months after their separation, nephew has been introduced to new partners and the sickness has returned. Both parents won't have it that its anxiety/stress. Any other ideas/thoughts?

Is this a different couple you are related to who split in July, and introduced partners quickly?

Or in fact is B and her ex husband not really giving a shit about the child?

I dont usually AS but something isnt adding up here

A is being a good friend to B and obviously has concerns. A sounds like a very good and honest friend, and if I were B I would be grateful to have something that cared so much about me.

Maybe A knows more about B's new love interest than she is letting on, or does not feel he is good for her friend or child.

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Your are either B or your way to over involved!

As for you point I'm with A, Children want their parents to be happy b's DS has seen her upset seen her sad and now sees she isn't he may well be hiding his feelings from his mum to not make her sad again where as maybe he isn't with A.

Maybe A is wrong and this is true love but I would be concerned about someone who came out of a long term relationship quickly got into a new relationship quickly introduced said partner to child, dismissed anyone's concerns and is willing to start cutting out a friend that has been a massive support to her in the past I'd have alarm bells ringing!

Has op not been back since it was pointed she has claimed before this situation is making the child ill?

That not odd at all