To be upset by this?

[MamaBear8686]

DP and I been together 2 years and on the whole are very happy. However last night we had a drink fuelled row over basically nothing that got a bit heated. At one point he put on his shoes and coat and said he was leaving me. At this point I totally freaked out and tried making amends. Probably the wrong thing to do in hindsight.

I went to bed very upset and woke up feeling crap today too. Tried explaining to him that if he can just up and go over something so silly it doesn't say a lot for our relationship. He said he never meant it, loves me to bits and it was said in the heat of the moment. I still feel pretty rubbish and am wondering what would have happened if I'd just let him leave. Do I just chalk it up to a bad row?

Just sounds like a pretty heated row (what was it about?) But no it's not great for him to threaten to leave, that's a bit of a red flag but then we can all say things we don't mean in the heat of the moment.

I'd say put it behind you and have a nice weekend together - but if it becomes a habit of his to threaten to end the relationship when you argue, as a way of scaring you into making amends, then that's abusive.

As a one-off though it wouldn't worry me.

Next time he threatens it, just let him walk out.

Chalk it up.
Without the alcohol i would be more concerned but weve all over reacted and said done something stupid in alcohol that we wouldn't sober.

I would go by how he treats you sober and not in the middle of a drunken heated row.

@HarrysOwl Literally the stupidest thing, I think it started with a disagreement over what to watch on tv which then escalated. So pathetic. I did say some pretty hurtful stuff too, I'm not blameless.

Yeah I think he knows that is a weak point for me and if he uses it again I will certainly see it as a red flag. He's not usually that sort of person so it was a shock to me.