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Original poster

To have a right fucking cob on

26 replies

StickyShoess · 22/03/2019 20:45

I am being completely U but humour me won’t you

I’ve had a really really really really really stressful couple of weeks, honestly among the hardest times of my life
All week I’ve been saying how I am looking forward to this weekend so much because everything is calm, we have no plans or places to be and I can’t wait to just sleep, actually be in the house and just be

So this afternoon finally comes and baby has been whiny and whiny, not eating and a bit of a temperature, is obviously coming down with something 🙄 fan fucking tastic- someone else!

Then I came on my period in quite a spectacular fashion

Then about an hour ago DP just struts down all ready for a night out, his mates have just rang so he’s just going, just like that!
Now this doesn’t really affect me besides the fact that I now won’t eat as it’s pointless cooking just for me and he’s eating out, he’ll still get up in the morning with the kids and let me sleep, and it’s a freebie so doesn’t even affect our money
But fuck me have I got a cob on about it, proper stropped at him and was all passive aggressive telling him to “enjoy his night off, let me know what that feels like when you get back won’t you” and he’s gone out in a huff with me

I know I’m being U - but eurgh!!
I have no idea why this has pissed me off so much

So I suppose my AIBU is AIBU to be U even though i know I’m being U and to not give a fuck anyway Grin

Wine
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miaCara · 22/03/2019 20:51

Well since hes gone out theres no point in having a cob on and annoying only yourself.
And why go without food just because hes gone out.? Is he the only important person in the house then? Is all of your food portioned out into double servings? He wont know and if he finds out will only think you are weird. Feed yourself a chocolate mountain your favourite food and enjoy the peace as far as you can.

scaryteacher · 22/03/2019 20:53

Make sure the door is locked and bolted so he can't get back in, and go to bed (with ear plugs in).

YANBU, and if he is stupid enough not to recognise PMT and tiredness after dealing with a baby coming down with something, and a frazzled wife, then he is an arsehole.

PinkHeart5914 · 22/03/2019 20:53

FFS don’t be daft, eat something even cheese on toast (or order take away if funds allow) and open wine.......

adaline · 22/03/2019 20:54

Why does he think he can just swan out like that? I'd be pissed off too.

Alfiesmom15 · 22/03/2019 20:55

Order yourself a takeaway, glass of wine, have a bubbly bath and then stick a movie on. Turn it round to be a positive and have a nice relaxing evening while baby sleeps and you can have you time. Smile

Treaclesweet · 22/03/2019 20:56

Get yourself a nice takeaway, don't not eat just because he's gone out Wine

Original poster
StickyShoess · 22/03/2019 21:00

I’ve fed a million kids a million times today and I just can not be bothered with the faff of making something else
Still have children up and they need medication before bed plus the toddler gets up every couple of hours so a nice relaxing evening with wine and a bath is out, if he’s out I’m ‘on duty’

But I will pull myself together and stop sulking soon - he’s not even here to appreciate my fucked off face

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Sosensical · 22/03/2019 21:01

Ooh yes, take yourself upstairs with some cheese on toast, no plate, eat messily, his side of the bed... 😈😄

Original poster
StickyShoess · 22/03/2019 21:02

Sosensical yes! These are the kind of plans I can get on board with Grin

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ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 22/03/2019 21:02

This is one of those "would you be less miserable if he was there being miserable with you"? things??

I've had times like that, but you do need to apply some logic! There will be times (hopefully!) When you will get a night out and he can stay home. Suck this one up, be gracious and enjoy your turn when it comes

percheron67 · 22/03/2019 21:03

I thought this was a post about a horse?!

Original poster
StickyShoess · 22/03/2019 21:04

would you be less miserable if he was there being miserable with you?
Yes. Yes I would Wink

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Original poster
StickyShoess · 22/03/2019 21:05

A horse??

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MillicentMartha · 22/03/2019 21:18

A cob

To have a right fucking cob on
MillicentMartha · 22/03/2019 21:19

Oops

To have a right fucking cob on
Quartz2208 · 22/03/2019 21:24

I don’t th8nk you are - it’s not plans he had he just decided he was going out and leaving you with at least 2 kids and will he really get up early tomorrow and deal with it

TheFirstRuleOfFightClub · 22/03/2019 21:28

Crisp butty and a beer. In bed.

IsAStormApporaching · 22/03/2019 21:30

I remember I did exactly this when my partner went out for a night out a week after we had our first dc.
He and his friends spontaneously decided to wet the baby's head Hmm I was furious but not really sure why I was so angry.
Eventually I realised I was actually angry at was the fact dp decide to go on a night out So he gets changed and goes out.
When I decide to go out I arrange the kid and dps food, arrange for dp or someone to watch them, clean/ tidy, get changed and go out exhausted before the night has even began.
It was the anger that his life hasn't actually changed much at all.
Now I am flinging him out the door for some peace 😂
Enjoy some cuddles with your dc and lots of chocolate. Flowers

BlueMerchant · 22/03/2019 21:31

Plan tomorrow. Get him up early. Get yourself out to a nice cafe/ coffee shop for a bit of 'me' time and a browse round the shops. Treat yourself to a nice box of chocolates or a nice new bubble bath then leave him to it tomorrow night while you relax.

Verynice · 22/03/2019 21:39

Also have the mother of all periods. Well, basically an ongoing light period for months, followed by periodic spells of molto heavy period. I have nobody to get arsey with so I've fought with randomers on FB instead - random things lol. Thought I was dying today, kept feeling faint, then the gush of blood, so that explained that one. What I can't understand is why you get weak when the period starts leaving your body. Surely you'd get weak while your body is building it up? Doesn't stop me feeling fucking furious at the world in general. I'm a bit young for menopause, have been considering a hysterectomy, all sorts of madness. But it's no normal bloody cycle (constant really), so I can't even look forward to this passing. So I'm like a permanent demon. Also depressed! Must ask what my iron levels were at last blood test. But that will annoy me too, as you have to ring at 8am, then I'll miss their call and etc. etc.

Verynice · 22/03/2019 21:43

Oh but don't get chocolate. Then you'll feel fat and annoyed haha. How about something like a chop, a chicken breast, turkey breast and some salad. Feeds you but you're not going mental. Well not totally. Yet. If they don't sort this bleeding issue with me soon, I'll end up in jail. For murder. Of someone random.

percheron67 · 23/03/2019 10:26

Millicent - thank you - I can't put pictures on or else I would have done so.! I hadn't heard the expression before so thought of a horse when I first saw it.

Arnoldthecat · 23/03/2019 10:40

"cob on " is a northern expression i believe..

Original poster
StickyShoess · 23/03/2019 10:58

I had no idea a horse was a cob, I actually thought everyone used that expression - yes I’m northern Blush

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Fluffyears · 23/03/2019 11:33

Nope never used that phrase and took me s bit to realise what you meant. I’d say ‘to be in a mood or a huff’.