Ok so I know I'm not really BU but I need a good plan on how to get out of a hen do please!
I'm currently 7 weeks pregnant and already have a toddler DS. The hen do would be when the baby would only be 4months and it would be 3 nights away, abroad. In any other circumstance I would be there with bells on as it'll be my whole group of friends going away and I'm genuinely gutted to miss out.
The problem is, the maid of honour asked for the first deposit (£50+) last week (despite the hen do being a year away) and almost everyone has already paid. I haven't been asked again for the money but I'm sure she's waiting for my amount too.
Tbh I wasn't really expecting to be paying for stuff this soon, but I also appreciate that the MOH would have booked the accommodation with X amount of people in mind, thus everyone expecting to divide the amount between that many too.
Should I take the £50 hit (a lot of money for me!!!) and then everyone else will have to pay a bit extra when it comes to paying the balance, or is there a way I can say I'm not going, not pay and bow out without mentioning that I'm pregnant? I want to wait until the 12wk scan to make sure everything is okay before I tell anyone.
I hope this makes sense and thanks in advance for any advice.