To ask what's the best and worst piece of advice you've been given/heard?

[m4rdybum]

Don't have to be child related.

9 weeks in with my little girl and I roll my eyes at anyone who says "sleep when she sleeps" - honestly, first two weeks, fair enough, but now DH is back to work, there's shit to be done. I'm not even talking about big jobs, just your bog standard pot washing and bottle sterilizing. Plus, she only sleeps for 30 min or so stints during the day, so if only just be drifting off as she woke up.

On the flip side, someone told me you could crush an Oxo cube up in it's wrapper then tear the corner off to sprinkle in food, and it changed my life

Best- Don’t let the bastards grind you down

-Arseholes always get their cummupence in the end

Worst- You’ll ‘grow out of’ your lack of confidence

I remember when I fell pregnant (unexpected but a nice surprise) I was breaking news to my parents, my Dad could tell I was apprehensive to tell him and he just looked at me, smiled and said "we are where we are" and it just made me feel so much better equipped to deal with it going forward.

Best - if it's worth having, it's not easy and if it's easy, it's not worth having.

Also like: you haven't failed until you've given up. Until that point it's learning.

Worst: you can't have it all (I.e. choose a good career or motherhood)

I’ve had lots of serious health issues since I was 19. When I was at my worst my (now) FIL told me to ‘take it easy, but take it’

Took me ages to work out what he meant, but it still soothes me all these years later.

That's Maya Angelou...not MN Thank you for correcting me HarrysOwl
I did actually know that, but it's used on here a lot and it's here where I channel it.

I also REALLY like "pick your battles" Gazelda

And I've also remembered
It's better to regret what you've done than what you haven't.

Worst - get the salad

An elderly relative well into his 90s said to me quite young "only regret the things you've not done, not the things you have". I like that.

10 years ago I asked one of the blokes I worked with if he thought it was weird if I asked an ex bf from a few years ago out for a drink. I wanted to but I was talking myself out of it, I was worried I'd embarrass myself and I'd be turned down. He told me to "go for it, if you don't ask you'll never know". So I messaged him (instantly thought omg omg what am I doing) but he said yes, we went out realised we still liked one another, 5 years to the day of that drink he asked me to marry him and we are now married with 2 children.

I do love it when elderly couples say "never go to sleep on an argument", I always try not to, I don't always achieve it though!

Worst- don't let baby go into a jumperoo or walker as it'll cause autism 🤔 wtf

Best- buy a good dryer, so you don't have to iron

Best advice

In a crisis you discover true friends...and unexpected strangers (the people you thought were friends who do a vanishing act!)

Worst advice

"Just don't think about it" usually from ignorant twats with no idea about mental illness (I have severe OCD among other things. If I could just "not think about it" my life would be a breeze!)

"Worst: try a perm" yep I think there's a good number of us 80's teens fell for that one!

At least we made our fashion mistakes before sm, when I look at some of what dd wears and plasters over sm I cringe for her 40 year old self!

Someone did once say to me "find your style not your fashion, they're not the same thing"

Best advice from DH's aunt when we were planning our honeymoon.
"Go somewhere where you don't have to go anywhere or do anything. You'll be exhausted."
We picked a cottage with lovely views in a quiet area of Scotland. She was right, we just chilled out for ten days.
Worst - when dealing with hellish periods as a teenager my mum remarked "Some women find everything improves after having a baby."
Helpful mum, I was fifteen!

Worst: we don't fail in this family. Really screwed with my head.

It's not personal, said when I started teaching and it is good advice, when I have spent ages prepping a lesson and it is one of those days and the kids just want to complain.

Worst - don't see a solicitor

Best - never make someone your priority if they only make you their option

Worst (in general) - you don’t need to get married (uk) to have legal rights

My dads advice-keep anything of value in your trouser pocket-its one fuck of an emergency where you lose your trousers

My mother's advice-even if your not in the mood and he is just lay back and take it-or he'll leave you
Yeah whatever...

Good advice I read on here recently:

"Don't be a dick, don't be a doormat".