Am I a total bitch to be fed up of hearing about my uncles 'tough life'

[Spookydollshouse]

God this is going to make me sound a right bitch but how do you approach things like this?

My uncle lived at home until his parents passed away three years ago , he was 45.
Up to this point he had never left home, paid no rent and bills, mostly didn't cook, car bought and insured for him, left jobs numerous times because he didn't have to worry about funds and had regular paid for holidays across the World. Good for him, honestly.

When his parents died he inherited a very large house but as it needed a lot of modernisation he sold it for somewhere else that resulted in a small mortgage.

All I ever hear is about my poor uncle having to start a mortgage at 45 and my poor uncle who now has to sort paying bills and poor uncle this and that because he can't go on the holidays he used to (even though he's going to USA and Dubai this year!)

It's driving me bonkers.
I hate flying so not at all jealous but I've had some really actual damn tough times in life and am still trying to build up from having literally nothing when we left exh, loss myself, serious health issues etc, being on my own with my children and I get no sympathy what so ever but poor poor uncle is having such a terrible time.

Help?
I don't want to be a what about me person but that's how it makes me feel.

YANBU. Your Uncle sounds EXACTLY like my BIL, or to give him his proper title "Poor John" (not his real name)

I'm constantly listening to this shit from MIL:

"Poor John has no house" - yes, he does. A council house for which he pays less than €50 a week for a family of five.
"Poor John's car is gone, can't be repaired - yes, because he never bothered putting petrol, oil or water in it or getting it serviced.
"Poor John and (wife) can't afford to take the kids on holiday" - so MIL paid for 2 weeks in a Butlins style place.

There is NOTHING wrong with "Poor John" except for the fact that he's a lazy sponger. Neither him or his wife work, he seems to have more grants and entitlements than you can shake a stick at. All of his family have a medical card which entitles them to free healthcare (we live in Ireland so no NHS)

DH and I are both (foolishly!) working our backsides off to pay our mortgage and bills. If either of us need a trip to the GP it costs €70, but it's "Poor John" who elicits MIL's sympathy. The man is 54 years old!

So OP, I know exactly how you feel and you are definitely NOT BU.

Ugh I can understand your frustration! My uncle was like this. Everything was
“Oh poor Peter” he was sick when he was a child, he missed school, his father dies young, etc etc etc. he loves at home with my grandad until 45 too! He did nothing for my grandma except bludge off her. But she thought the sun shone out of him. Fast forward 5 years my grandma died and left him everything bar a thousand pounds each for her other sons. We were all disgusted! He’s still a loser who goes from job to job and woman to woman.

I'm wondering if there's some developmental issues with your uncle? I cang understand why he would like with parents well in to his 40s?

This sounds really annoying! I'd say try and stay away from those convos because it sounds unnecessarily stressful... or if you have to listen to it, spend time afterwords around friends who have a more balanced view of life/appreciate you and what you've accomplished in life without those privileges!

@SweetbutaPsycho
"I'm wondering if there's some developmental issues with your uncle? I cang understand why he would like with parents well in to his 40s?"

excuse me? What, only someone with a LD/who 'wasn't normal' would choose to live with their parents as an adult? That's a very prejudiced thing to say. Some adults (not me, but I know some) live with their parents because they want to/can't afford not to. Perfectly good reasons.