Man Flu- lord help me I'm losing my patience!

[weekendsleep]

My partner has a cold. It's been going on for 4 days now. I also have the same cold. He groans and moans constantly, coughs dramatically, sighs constantly, mopes around, complains how ill he feels, it's doing my head in.

He's acting as if he has the bubonic plague!

It's my day off today and I joked to him about having man flu and he went totally mental saying I don't have the same thing as him, I'm an asshole, I don't have to work today so feel sorry for him as he does (basically acting like he carries our entire household/earnings on his back which is in no way true!).

I've had the same thing, same symptoms but just get on with life? I've been out to get him throat sweets, lemons, honey etc even when I've felt like shit- plus he works from home and I've had to go out all day to work all this week in the cold 9-7 then working late at home so I should be the one getting some bloody sympathy!

I know it's a cold and I really don't want any sympathy really as I can deal with colds but AIBU to just wish he'd buck up and realise we both have the same thing but at least he gets to stay home in the warm all day?

God it's driving me mental. If you could hear how he coughs dramatically and belches and moans and groans you'd know what I mean! I just get on with being ill quietly and eating healthy foods, plenty of water etc.

Man flu truly is a thing. I text my mum last night and mentioned it to her and she said my dads the same- men would never get through child birth

m.youtube.com/watch?v=6keUdzwFCHU

Now after you watch the clip, tell me that manflu isn't real!

Maybe don't show your dp in case he takes it seriously.

@GummyGoddess tbf I don't take medicine unless needed myself (eg antibiotics) I think I'm more resilient to common colds and such because I can deal with the discomfort. He just medicates at every opportunity- practically lives off lemsip.

I bet you don't whinge about it while refusing the solution though. I made less fuss during childbirth!

@GummyGoddess I definitely don't whinge, there's no point- it doesn't help does it😂 I usually just take a nap if needed.

My mum says the same- you'd think some men are in labour when they're ill wouldn't you?

I feel your pain op DH and I both just had exactly the same virus. He retired to bed and left bloody everything DC related to me because he was so poorly

Manthrax! Brilliant 😂🤣

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/3404648-Im-totally-unreasonable-DH-putting-on-a-ill-voice?pg=1&messages=100&fbclid=IwAR2iw48TuNHNRtyxag4xCWgV6decHEutbo5tvFIeWI4d6_XLkn4o2iGPMFs

@weekendsleep

This thread should give you a laugh and relieve some of the rage.

@Namechangeymcnamechange11 what a shit head next time go out and leave the kids with him and have a well deserved rest. They can all watch tv in bed.

@longtimelurkerhelen ooooh looks interesting. Thanks!

Also a touch of manbola at the end, before we were sure he would actually make it through 😁

@calpop it's going to be a case of manmurdered soon if he doesn't shut up...

😂😂😂it must be the week for it!! My DH said he was "trying not to get too near the kids so he didn't give them his manflu cold" despite the fact Ds had a cold all last week, made hardly any fuss about it and was probably where DH got it from.

@KrazyKatlady we don't have any kids to blame it one here- but he does annoy me with not washing his hands before he eats when we're out!

They are a bloody pain when ‘ill’ aren’t they. Turn the volume up. Move bedroom. Plan a night out with your mate and leave him to fester!

I feel bad now about talking shit about him as he's being nice😂😂 poor lad can't handle a stubbed toe but he is sweet when he wants to be.

Check into your nearest budget hotel. Ask him to phone you when he’s feeling better.

Children get colds, men get you, women get on with it!
I can't abide helplessness when they're ill. I've even heard, "I'm bigger than you so there is more of me to hurt" before!

*men get flu

www.webmd.com/cold-and-flu/news/20171211/does-flu-hit-men-harder-than-women-maybe-so

apparently man flu might be a real thing!

DH does this but is much better than he used to be. I deal it by being really kind while taking the piss unmercifully. Every sigh, every groan, I laugh and pat him on the head in a deeply condescending manner. Things have improved tremendously.

@xMSx If it is then fine, still no sympathy if they don't take any medication though! If he did, I would have sympathy.

When I had hyperemesis, DH was ill. He threw up once and decided he was off to bed, leaving me with the 1 year old even though he felt otherwise fine. I was busy heaving my guts up every other hour and didn't go to bed (despite obviously feeling sick, plus being pregnant and exhausted). I think he felt a little bit ashamed when I pointed that out to him as he stopped going on about it.

My horrible exh was like this. When we both had gastro enteritis he told me me I wasn't as ill as he was because I didn't look as ill as he felt.
This was one of the reasons why he is now my exh

Oh. I hear you. We have both been unwell but I had to think more positively otherwise I’d think myself poorly. Honestly I’ve taken less time off with the actual flu which needed antivirals.

I’m going away for the weekend. Cannot be dealing with this.

I can't cope with the bitten off sigh, the pain bravely borne. It makes me want to reach for the carving knife!

It was really difficult for ex when I had morning sickness, apparently.