Aibu for wanting to work?

[Sunny96]

So myself and baby daddy have ended our relationship, but we are still very good friends and want to always remain in good terms, mainly for the sake of our DS.
Since we're going to be moving out shortly, I've been doing the benefits math, and am not happy with the results, and with my current mental state declining from the stress, anxiety and PND, I feel like taking a break from baby a few days of the week, being independent /seeing people /getting out of the house/getting somewhere in life will greatly help improve my emotional /mental state. Aka, find a part or full time job.
Baby daddy is happy to be a stay at home dad to allow me to do this.
However, I spoke with my gran about this, and she thinks it's absolutely horrendous that I might only see my child a few times a week, and that I'm prioritising work, aka my mental stability for the sake of my child, 'over' my child.
However, joint custody is fine, just not if I'm working?!
She thinks a mother should entirely commit to their child, and that I should move closer to them, further away from his father, and live on benefits in a council house for God knows how long. ( not judging, I grew up on a council estate 'raised' by our mother living on benefits)
It's worth mentioning her son is looking after his two kids whilst his recently ex wife works most days, and she only has negative things to say about HER. Yet it seemed like she was saying a father is too incompetent to raise his kids alone?!
Is it so wrong I want to provide for my child and give him the things I never had? For wanting to start a career?
Am I wrong for thinking I should be looking after myself for the sake of my child, if that means I get to see him less?

@Sunny96 is he currently employed? If so has he tried putting in a flexible working request? Maybe wait til you have a job and work around those hours?

@Ihavealwaysknown
He is currently employed, but he's leaving in a couple of months, he work nights currently. Unfortunately the manager/ Co owner he works for is absolutely unbearable and is driving the business into the ground - even the other owner is ready to walk away from their three businesses because he's so awful! He's also just done with the industry as a whole, and I don't blame him for any of his reasons

People are being rude nit picking about OP using the term 'baby daddy.' It's clear what she meant. Answer her question or just move on if 'americanisms' are so offensive to you.

@Sunny96 do what works for you. Prioritise yourself and being well- this is in your child's best interest as well.

The only thing I would advise you to do would be to do some research and become informed about whether your ex becoming the primary carer disadvantages you in terms of custody rights or parenting payments in the event that you fall out with him.

I'm not from the UK so I don't know what the law is.

Why does it matter what your grandma thinks? You can live your life her way or you can live it your way. Your choice.

This is how women hold other women back. We are our own worst enemies! If you want to work then work and tell her to live her own life. She’s clearly not got much to do!

It really is none of her business.

DH's DGM expressed surprise when I went back to work. Now the majority of her 12 DGCs have DC and the women in the partnerships are all back at work, she sees how it's beneficial.

Does it matter how OP referred to her ex? Anything to put someone down on this site.