DM was an abusive alcoholic when I was a child and as a result, I'm not particularly close to her and only see her on special occasions or keep her at arms length as much as possible.
She is however, close to my DB, who never witnessed any of the abuse first hand, so as a result does always try and ask me to socialise more with her and them both which I always decline to do.
Mother's day is approaching and I really don't want to buy her the token card or gift which she expects. I'm tired of being an after thought to her, tired of being the black sheep out of her 3 children and the only child she was physically and emotionally abusive towards.
The main reason my DB doesn't know much is because he was raised by his father and my mum was the 'weekend parent' and so doesn't really believe DM would ever do this as he only witnessed the kind and playful part of her . So because of this, I've had to just carry on and ignore my past and pretend it didn't happen as I've never been believed when I've spoken about my upbringing.
I've decided this year, I've had enough of carrying on and pretending that mum was the parent you'd expect her to be, you know, the one that loves and protects her child.
Would i BU to just forget this day and deal with the massive fall out? Or just suck it up? My mum is the kind of person that would go crying to DB over this and make a massive song and dance. I so wish I could cut her out of my life, but doing that would mean losing my DB and making that extremely awkward for him.