To think he is being disingenuous?

[MrsNacho]

Having a conversation about someone DP knows who requested to follow me on Insta. I said oh, he was in the pub in Friday wasn't he?

DP replied with oh so you were checking him out then to remember he was there.

Now the man is very attractive which of course I can see, I have eyes in my head. However I didn't even have a conversation with the guy much less check him out.

I said that you can still see if other people are attractive/beautiful/handsome if you are in a relationship, the relationship just means that you wouldn't act upon it or flirt with the other person.

If I walk down the street and a beautiful woman walks past me I can see she is beautiful regardless of my sexuality or relationship status.

So DP is adamant that he doesn't look at other women at all and wouldn't notice whether or not someone is pretty because he loves me and wouldn't want to be wih anyone else.

AIBU to think he is being disingenuous and being in a relationship doesn't suddenly make you visually impaired.

He is a liar.
Simple.

I'd call bullshit on that.

DH still sees a beautiful woman.

I still see a beautiful man.

We got married, not dead.

Agree with PPs I got married not a brain injury or visual impairment I can see who is objectively attractive , that doesn't mean I lust after them or think about leaving DH , or love him any less

This is exactly my point. Just because other people have nice features doesn't mean you aren't happy in your marriage.

We are disputing it and he is adamant that he doesn't notice. I just think he is lying his face off.

Obviously he is attracted to me but if Jlo walked past him he would still see that she is very beautiful. His eyes still work. That doesn't mean he loves me any less, it's not disrespectful or anything.

He might pay less attention to whether or not someone is attractive but if course he can still tell.

I'd assume he was feeling a dip in confidence and focus in on that on a loving way.

He's lying or deluded.

@dudsville you could have hit the nail on the head. He thinks I am much more attractive than he is so could be insecure.

To be fair I did point out that I am very happy in my choice of partner and wouldn't want anyone else. It still doesn't mean I have gone blind.

Agree with above. Total bullshit. I’m very happily married and would never cheat but my vision is good and I still see men I think are fit. DH and I usually discuss it, apparently we have quite different taste in women and men 😂 He’s clearly feeling insecure but you’re totally right.

I'm almost completely certain DP wouldn't do anything sneaky possibly because he's well aware that he would end up out on his arse, but I still noticed when we walked home one night that he was very much enjoying the view of the young woman in a micro skirt and with a cracking pair of legs walking in front of us. And I'm fine with it - I just found it funny that he was trying so hard not to be clocked.

That's still different to just noticing somebody was there, even though there's nothing wrong with it.

Your DP is being a twat about it. And lying to boot.

Your partner is a horrible liar and must think you're daft to believe such utter bullshit.

I think that's what is annoying me. He just think I am the definition of gullible to believe him.

If the guy you were talking about was old, fat, unattractive etc would he still be asking you these questions? Or would he not be worried? If not, then he has obviously seen that the other guy is attractive and that's why he's worried - which means he does notice other people's appearance

BS!

AmIRight I hadn't even thought of that! You just won the argument for me. Thanks!!