Hi all. I had my first child three months ago, one of my close friends I think is struggling with this sadly. Since I had my baby I’ve met up with my friend as normal, couple of times a month or more, been shopping, cinema and for meals. I’m lucky I wasn’t breastfeeding so this wasn’t too hard but I am very tired!
She’s never met my baby or come over, I have invited her but she’s always invited me to things like cinema and evening meals etc so I’ve got my partner to have baby at home as my friends not seemed too keen on me bringing baby along.
I didn’t hear back from her in a while so I rang her and asked if she is OK... I was worried, she said the following:
-That she feels we have gone in different directions in life
-that she feels I’ve grown up and she hasn’t
-that she feels I’m now too busy for her so she doesn’t want to bother me
-that she’s not visited as she isn’t comfortable with babies
-that she doesn’t see where she now fits in with our friendship now I have a baby.
I was absolutely shocked she opened up and said all this, and I know it’s all clear but I just don’t get it!!! We’ve been close for 3years- speak daily, I’ve still seen her lots and I did make efforts to not be baby bore as I know what that’s like from before I had a baby with other friends !
I’m quite upset I’ve made efforts and done my best to remain “the same” and she’s decided I’m just not the same ? Or she isn’t ? Has anyone else had this ? I’ve tried to patch it up and tell her she’s really important to me - and I got no reply sadly. I’ve rang her back also and she didn’t answer.