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AIBU Mother in law

18 replies

Rizzoli123 · 19/03/2019 22:06

I am a mum of two. I normally eat my tea after putting my children to bed. I choose some nights not to eat as after having kids I haven't got the appetite I used to have.

Earlier in the evening my husband asked what I wanted for tea. I said nothing. I put one son to bed and he said your tea is in the kitchen. I said why I didn't want any. His mum then moaned oh I'm not doing the shopping anymore as it just goes to waste (it came on Sunday night). I told her I told him I wasn't going to eat. She then said oh its all just going waste I'm not going to bother again.

If I choose not to eat surely that's up to me not up to someone else to choose. Am I being unreasonable or is she at fault

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999caffeineplease · 19/03/2019 22:16

Why is she doing your shopping? I can understand her not wanting to spend money on things just getting wasted.

I don’t think either of you are being unreasonable.

GertrudeCB · 19/03/2019 22:18

Does she live with you?

Nicknacky · 19/03/2019 22:18

You need to eat.

MinorChef · 19/03/2019 22:19

Can you have it for your lunch tomorrow? missed point

adulthumanwolf · 19/03/2019 22:20

Why on earth is MIL doing your shopping?

Starlight456 · 19/03/2019 22:23

I don’t get why she is doing your shopping either?

AintNobodyHereButUsReindeer · 19/03/2019 22:31

I'm another one who is baffled at the shopping.

Anyway, you were not unreasonable saying you didn't want to eat, your DH was unreasonable for making you some food, and I'm not too sure where MIL fits in but she sounds unreasonable too.

YeahNah1980 · 19/03/2019 23:29

If you MIL isn’t around often I actually think it’s quite rude to not eat with her and your husband. She’s probably done some shopping to be nice/helpful. I don’t think it’s a very nice way for you to treat a guest.

TrixieFranklin · 19/03/2019 23:30

Huh?

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 19/03/2019 23:36

Do you live with your MIL? did she cook or your DH?

Kintan · 19/03/2019 23:38

Why’s your MiL doing your shopping?

Justanothervoiceintheworld · 20/03/2019 20:21

It was her way to guilt you into tea. Just let her know you appreciate all she does with your family and ask if she wants you to reimburse her for the money. That your reaction to the altercation was not reflecting how you feel about her help only that you were not listened too. This seems to be at the heart of what you wrote. You did not feel listened too then made to feel guilty because of the outcome.

PengAly · 20/03/2019 20:26

Why is MIL doing your shopping?? More info needed...

queenqueenqueen · 20/03/2019 20:27

Another one confused?? Does she live with you?

SoyDora · 20/03/2019 20:30

Another one confused as to why your MIL is doing your shopping for you?

Didntwanttochangemyname · 20/03/2019 20:36

This is weird.

anniehm · 20/03/2019 20:39

Whilst yes, you should not have to force yourself to eat, it's also very annoying for the person who shops and cooks if food isn't needed and goes to waste. I check at the beginning of each week for everyone's movements and heaven help them if it changes!

BlueMerchant · 20/03/2019 20:41

You sound like you need your own home and your own space.

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