Apologies for the super long post!
DH and I met in my home country. After we got married, I agreed to move back with him to the UK (where he was born). We lived in London together for 9 years and had two DC in that time period. The UK was a big culture shock for me, but I adjusted as well as I could and I did enjoy it to a certain point.
Then he was offered a great position at an international company in my home country which he then went for, after we both mutually agreed. At that time, I had just finished a course in London and had started working part time.
When we moved back to my home country, it was great for us to be around my family and friends. I do admit we have a good support network over here which we didn’t have in the UK. And now with kids as well, it makes a big difference.
However, now after 3 and a half years abroad, I can see he is getting homesick for the UK (unlike me), he has started complaining about how expensive the ME has become, the sky high school fees (which aren’t covered sadly), general cost of living, No savings, etc....
To make things even worse, his company has gradually started sending him on work trips abroad on a more regular basis, which he absolutely hates. So he is now basically only around during the weekends. And naturally he is utterly drained!
I have tried asking him to sit with his superiors to discuss reducing his travel time, reminding them that he has a young family, etc but he keeps saying most of their clients in the ME these days are abroad and unfortunately as a consultant his role requires this kind of constant travel. He cannot Skype or do any of that as they don’t operate this way over here.
I do find it unfair as they (his work) never said in his job description it would involve this MUCH travel. I feel they are taking advantage and he is letting them.
As for me I worked part time initially first year I came back home, but after DH’s long hours at work plus travel, we decided its best I be the SAHP and manage the household and the DC. We don’t believe in having nannies take care of the kids so i have taken a big hit to my career being out of work for a long time now. I do miss working but it’s a sacrifice I was happy to make and he earns so much more than me that it makes more sense financially.
We have discussed him looking for another job here, but he's not having much luck. The pay would be so much lower we would have to downsize drastically in every way.
I have been looking to get back to work as well. I would need 2 more years to get qualified to earn half decent money if I was to support us and I don’t think he will last that long here tbh waiting for me. He also has said he isn’t happy to be at home all day 
The only options left would be for me to either homeschool the kids as that would save us a lot.I wouldn't know where to start to be honest and I would feel so guilty as my children absolutely love going to their school here and are thriving with their friends and teachers. Another option is for him to move back on his own to the UK and I don’t think that would be fair for any to be away from each other for so much time.
The only other option is to cut our losses and move back to the UK where he hopefully finds another well paid job like this one sans travel. This is the option he wants to go for obviously.
He is now talking about sending me and the DC over to the UK first, for a couple of months so we can save some more money to relocate our stuff. I’m dreading it to be honest but I’m hoping it will work out? I have no clue how to apply for schools, with one DS starting secondary next year and one still in junior primary. I also do feel some resentment inside which I hope won’t keep growing. The fact that I coped 9 years in his town while he couldn’t last half that long abroad. I know I will miss my family and friends terribly and the outdoor lifestyle which we take for granted here.
AIBU in how I’m feeling now? And any advice or tips about how to move back to the UK (west london to be more precise) with children.
Just finding it so daunting at the moment 