To not want DD gaming in all her free time?

[radoxy]

DD is 17 and in Sixth Form. She has a couple of friends there but overall, she isn't very popular/sociable. She comes home, goes straight to game. She chats to a lot of gaming friends but never wants to see any in real life. She has a small part-time job and that's the only other time she goes out. She does her schoolwork but games for maybe 6 hours a day? On school days and about 10 on a Saturday, the Sunday is the day she works, but still fits in around 4-5 hours. AIBU to hate this?

Honestly it's better than her out at night. I work a youth project and I honestly will be happy if my daughter (3 atm) becomes a gamer and doesn't go out after school. Saying that I would encourage some form of volunteering or joining a youth organisation like scouting so she's not constantly on the computer.

she isn't very popular/sociable. ... She chats to a lot of gaming friends

Er... spot the contradiction?

You have to believe they are looking at soft skills as evidenced through hobbies/volunteering/work experience detailed in the personal statement.

Then she needs to describe her online activities in a way that appeals to the selectors. If she's facilitating the group, showing regular commitment to the game, learning skills from it, negotiating, moderating, recruiting players... potentially a ton of soft skills.

She could probably do with some physical exercise, but beyond that she's fine.

YABU. What exactly do you hate about her gaming?

I'm in my mid to late 20s and I consider my gaming buddies of 8 years some of my closest friends. They've talked me through my worst nights (believe it or not, sometimes it's easier to open up when you know you don't have to face someone in person), we've encouraged someone to go back to uni and took turns staying up with him while he studied for his finals, and half of us even flew to Finland to attend the wedding of this couple who met in-game!

As long as she's responsible, I don't see the harm.

What should she do instead? It's her free time.

So she works, studies at college and games.in her spare time ?

Sounds like an ok kid to me.