AIBU at this comment....

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This is quite an old comment but something reminded me of it today and it got me riled again...

I was pregnant and out for lunch with my female work colleagues. One of them started saying she would probably never have kids because....'it would probably have Downs Syndrome, or die inside me'....

Nobody said anything but I was seething at how inconsiderate it was to say in front of someone who was pregnant and also just how ignorant and callous. And also that nobody thought to pipe up to say um that's maybe a bit inappropriate...

Am I being unreasonable in my anger about it or should I have been more thick skinned??

Oh and I was too shocked at the time that she said it to come back with a quick reply...

It sounds to me like she is very hard on herself, maybe due to past experiences, I wouldn't take it personally and certainly wouldn't be seething, she's not being nasty to anyone who's pregnant unless there is a back story you haven't given.

I have always said don’t want kids as always known would be hard for me to have them but people didn’t know that, so when I started having fertility treatment lots of people were shocked - what you say to mask what you feel can be too very different things.

Don’t be too hard on her, if have no interest in knowing more let it go if were to dig deeper I think a lot of issues which could include some jealousy would come up.

It was abit inappropriate and you are allowed to feel that but just remember sometimes it’s not as it seems.