A friend of mine has recently split from her long term partner. It was out of the blue and they have only been married six months with two kids between them so understandably she is very cut up.
She's a good friend who I've known many years but in recent years since we've both had kids we've probably only got together a handful of times per year because families and stuff have taken priority. Since she separated she's been wanting to get together a lot more often. I've made myself available for coffees, telephone chats, a few nights out but I'm struggling because I work full time and have my own family who I've sacrificed time with on a weekend to see her.
Our other mutual friend (who has no kids) is also continuously trying to arrange weekends away, spa days, girly holidays, fancy meals and stuff because apparently we all need to rally around for her and cheer her up. I really can't afford all these things in terms of money and time! But I feel so bad and am pretty sure I've been labelled as the bad friend by them already.
Am I BU? It's worth mentioning that I went through a rubbish break up a few years ago and was not given (nor expected) the same treatment!!! Is it wrong for me to decline at least some of these outings?