Am I being petty?

[ilovepancakes563]

I have been friends since the age of 11 with this girl and now we're 21. I'm a mother now and it's probably why I feel this is so immature and gross but when we're out in public she burps really loudly and grossly and people end up looking over in disgust or similarly farts and finds it extremely funny. If I was 16 again I probably would have laughed but now I find it really embarrassing and disgusting. Or she'll announce to me in for example a public cafe that she needs a shit really loudly, while people are eating. I understand the whole thing about not giving a shit about what people think but these things I find really disgusting in public that I actually want to walk away but I feel like I'm being rude. I just laugh out of awkwardness. I don't want to be harsh but she's generally gross in terms of hygiene in general but seems to again find it funny. I mean sometimes when she stayed over she wouldn't shower for 4 days on end and none of my family could tell her, "you stink, have a wash" because we didn't want to be rude. Am I being petty?

That would do my head in!

I'm at a loss to understand why you spend a minute of your time with this disgusting cow.

That's not normal. Not even a little bit.

That would put me off seeing her in public, if I'm honest. It's immature and embarrassing. And I'm by no means a prude.

I'm assuming she's aware of her behaviour, knows it's inappropriate and likes the attention, rather than any deeper issues of course.

Back away...

I put up with her cause we're like sisters but I'm beginning to drift away purely because I've done a lot of growing up, I've got my own life, family etc and she's still being naive and immature. I don't know.

Gross. Bodily functions are for the bathroom.

You’ve grown apart, I think you need to accept your friendship is over.

You've outgrown her, it's common at your age.

If she is like a sister then I would bite the bullet and tell her it is embarrassing and if she cared for you she would stop. It's worth having the conversation before not seeing her in public anymore or ending the friendship.

Friendships end and it seems like yours has come to a close. I'm not saying stone wall her but gradually pull away. Maybe once she's got a little family you might get in contact again. Or leave contact to texting. Good luck.

Try saying "that's not funny, it puts people off their meal".

we have a mutual friend who's actually said to her before that's really gross but she laughs it off and passes it off as "it's natural, I can do what I want, I don't care what people think". She's also generally inconsiderate. When I was pregnant, we had to catch a tram because I had parked my car further from where we were. She said she needed to pop into a club to find her glasses?? My partner and I agreed to wait for her but we told her that the last tram would be coming. She took her time and I had to walk 30 minutes back to the car, with baby pushing on my bladder and ended up having to pee in the grass because I would end up wetting myself, bearing in mind it was 11pm and nothing was open anymore. I couldn't leave and tell her that I had to go because I was bursting because of course, she never has her phone or it's always lost. Things like this are beginning to piss me off because isn't it just manners to be on time for things?

I would have hated that when I was 11 already. I wouldn't be a friend with anyone with no manners at all. They don't have to change, but equally I don't have to put up with them.

You need to raise the bar in regards to who you allow in your life. This vile woman is no friend.

@Aquamarine 😂😂😂

What?! I couldn't deal with that... I'd be embarrassed if my dc behaved like that in public, let alone a grown woman!

Friends grow apart, it happens. If you’re struggling to be around her it’s probably best you part ways.

DH's aunt is like that. Burping and snorting loudly in public, and hocking up phlegm. She's absolutely disgusting yet she thinks she's hilarious. She's in her 60's, so not going to change at this stage.