To wonder how you move on when your life is nothing like you thought it would be

[Iamsureitstuesday]

I thought I’d have a life kind of like everybody else’s.

It’s actually just sort of gone so badly wrong, I’ve no children or partner, no family, hardly any friends and I live in a horrible smelly basement flat!

I’m where you are. It’s a big depressing really.

I feel like that. Different situation, but a life I would not have chosen if given a second chance.

All of these things are easily fixable. Little by little, bit by bit. Takes time and effort. But you have to change your attitude. Which is probably the real issue here.

Well I am not sure it is. I’ve definitely got friends who are grumpier and moodier than me with better lives

I don’t think it’s attitude 9 times out of 10

But a lot of people I know have very much settled with their partners. Not many are really truly happy.

What things do you feel strongly about?

The environment and improving it?
Animal conservation?
Improving health?

Because there are groups and charities operating in all these areas and of course many more.

Why don't you join one and do something to improve lives? It might give you a purpose, sense of achievement and some meaning if you feel that is what is missing?

I do feel about some things, definitely, and I do give to charity. But I don’t have that sense of driving purpose. I just want to be an ordinary person with a family.